The Borderline *Set Up* Hoover The Borderline set up hoover is unlike any other type or generic “average” hoover. The Borderline set up hoover is one that is your BPD Ex plotting to punish you (especially the female borderline vs
BPD Lack of Emotional Intimacy
People, untreated, with Borderline Personality Disorder, cannot be emotionally intimate, in any relationship type, consistently, congruently, or age-appropriately. What is healthy emotional intimacy? Healthy emotional intimacy requires mutuality and reciprocity. It also requires the emotional intelligence and maturity to be
Borderline Personality And Cycles of Abuse
Borderline Personality And Cycles of Abuse Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is highly associated with verbal abuse, emotional abuse, psychological abuse, physical abuse, and/or domestic violence often suffered by those who are non-borderline. The propensity for abusiveness in those with
Have BPD? Transference in Therapy – What You Need To Know
For many with Borderline Personality working hard in therapy and building trust with a therapist is not an easy journey or process. To then, when you trust enough, to get to transference, where a therapist needs to meet you with
Ghosted by a Quiet Borderline
The person who manifests Borderline Personality Disorder in an internalizing “quiet borderline” way often discards, ghosts suddenly without warning in one or two ways. The first way is they simply leave you without any warning, conversation, closure and for so
BPD Suicide – An Epidemic
Losing a loved one with Borderline Personality Disorder to completed suicide happens all-too-often for so many people. Statistics continue to indicate that 10% of all people diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder will commit suicide. There is not way to measure
Loved Ones of BPD Protect Your Health When Borderline Rages
Many people with Borderline Personality Disorder are triggered often, causing the idealization split to rapidly become a devaluing split that comes with the emotional dysregulation of externalized aggression, RAGE. After the suicide of my partner, 4 months ago, today, I
When a Borderline Partner Commits Suicide – 4 Months Since She Took Her Life
After the suicide of my partner, 4 months ago, today, I have experienced intense grief, sleep deprivation, severe stress, conflicting emotions the list of which I could never complete or do justice here. This traumatic loss has left me with
Recovery from BPD and/or NPD Abuse
Are you a loved one or relative with someone in your life with Narcissistic Personality Disorder? A person with Borderline Personality Disorder? Healing from the abuse of someone in your life with Borderline Personality Disorder and/or Narcissistic Personality Disorder is
Right Fighting When You have Borderline Personality? What you need to know
People with Borderline Personality Disorder are often known as right-fighters or known for their right-fighting. This isn’t just a way they argue or provoke or fight with you, for the person with BPD it is a crucial defense mechanisms blocking
Narcissists Never Apologize – Don’t go down the rabbit hole
People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) never apologize. Why is that? How many times have you been down tumbling painfully down the rabbit hole of trying to be seen and heard when you have had your feelings hurt or your
Why Cluster B Loved Ones More Emotionally Reactive
Cluster B Personality Disorders as defined in the DSM-5 create for loved ones, neighbors, co-workers, adult children, and anyone in their proximity, a “crazy-making” gaslighing, abusive and chaotically devoid of boundaries and limits experience. This hurts even the mentally healthy
Loved Ones of a Person with BPD Diagnosing Borderline is Not Often Helpful
The internet is a wonderful resource of information on a wide variety of topics as pertains to how people experience each other in family relationships, dating relationships, significant other relationships, friendships and so on. Just googling something, though it may
Healing from Borderline Personality Narcissistic Personality Abuse – Loved Ones
Healing from the abuse of someone in your life with Borderline Personality Disorder and/or Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a very painful process. Not as painful as being abused is, however. It is a necessary though so that your mental and
When No Contact as an Adult-Child Is Necessary
Counsellor, Life Coach, and Mental Health Coach, A.J. Mahari, is an adult-child of a Borderline Personality Disordered Mother and (until the time of his passing in 1997) she was also the daughter of a father with Borderline Personality Disorder and
I am An Adult-Child of a Borderline Mother
I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). I was treated for BPD. I recovered from BPD. One thing has remained a constant throughout all the years of my life and all of my healing – I am the adult-child of a mother with Borderline Personality Disorder.
The Pain of Both Sides of Borderline Personality Disorder – My Borderline Mother
I had BPD and I recovered. My mother and father had BPD and they did not recover at all. I know the pain on both sides of BPD.
Coaching and Understanding to Help BPD Loved Ones (Non Borderlines) Cope with Someone With BPD in Your Life
Loved ones, family members, partners or ex-partners of those with Borderline Personality Disorder are often confused, in pain, and struggling to cope with a loved one with BPD. Life Coach, BPD and Mental Health Coach A.J. Mahari was interviewed on
Partners of BPD – Ex’s and/or On And Off Again – Why?
Life Coach, BPD and BPD Loved Ones Coach, and Author, A.J. Mahari works with loved ones and those with Borderline Personality and has been since 1997. In all of the sessions she’s had with Loved Ones of BPD – siblings,
More Needs To Be Done To End The Stigma of Mental Illness
Tuesday January 28, 2014 in Canada is the Bell Canada Initiative to help end the stigma that surrounds mental illness. To read more about this please visit Healthyminds.ca The stigma surrounding mental illness is a real obstacle for many in
