Petulant Borderlines use you when they rage at you. A borderline rage does make them feel better at your expense. They are often not aware of what is happening for your or how you are affected by them. Self-awareness deficits
Why Don’t Borderlines Just Get It?
Why don’t borderlines just get it, how to have their own boundaries and understand their feelings even with initial therapy can’t they just get it? Are you falsely hoping someone in your life with untreated BPD just get it? What
BPD Silent Treatment vs BPD Ghosting
A commenter asked if BPD silent treatment is the same as BPD ghosting or similar or are they different. Great question. For some people your person with (most often quiet) BPD may well have silent treatment patterns and this is
Trauma Bonding With a Borderline – What Codependents Need To Know
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BPD Idealization to Devaluation To Rumination & Ruination – Get Off The BPD Rollercoaster
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Borderlines Want What (Who) They Want – Get It (You) Then Don’t Want It (You) Anymore
Borderlines Want What (Who) They Want – Get It (You) Then Don’t Want It (You) Anymore Borderlines want what (who) they want until they get what the want (or you) then they don’t want what they wanted (you) anymore. This
BPD Idealization Devaluation Cycles – “Get-Away Closer” BPD Push/Pull
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BPD Idealization Devaluation Cycles – “Get-Away Closer” BPD Push/Pull
BPD idealization is not as real as BPD devaluation. Both result from the core relational impairment of the Approach Avoidance Conflict in BPD – It’s the push-pull “get-away closer” that cannot and will not ever change until and unless each
5 Reasons For BPD Lying That Destroys Relationships – Is There Biology To BPD Lying?
5 Reasons For BPD Lying That Destroys Relationships – Is There Biology To BPD Lying? 5 reasons (Root Causes) that explains why people with BPD lie. People with Borderline Personality – BPD – lie pervasively and often for so many
BPD Betrayal Means Can’t Be Friends & No Contact Needs To Be For Life
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BPD Breakup The Emptiness of BPD Relationship Recycling Trauma Bonded Situationships
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Surviving a BPD Relationship Breakup Partner Or Ex Partner
People with Borderline Personality Disorder, especially untreated, often get into trauma bonded relationships with non-borderlines more often than not who have Codependency. The beginning of the relationship is amazing! The person with BPD idealizes you, mirrors you, and from their
BPD Breakup No Closure – “The Closure Conversation” With BPD Ex Achieves Nothing
So many people after and trying to survive a BPD relationship breakup are emotionally stuck wanting and feeling a strong need for closure to understand more about what happened, did anything matter? Also, so many Ex’s of someone with Borderline
Borderline Red Herring Fallacy
The Borderline Red Herring Fallacy is experienced by anyone close to a person with Borderline Personality. Especially BPD partners, on/off recycling relationships, BPD Hoovers or your reverse hoovers. What does the Borderline Red Herring Fallacy have to do with Codependents?
Borderline and Codependent Denial – The BPD “We” & The Codependent “They”
Borderlines and Codependents both have considerable denial. It’s not manifested in each groups lives the exact same way yet it underpins a lot of this most unhealthy bond. Online Borderlines often use “we” when they share their narrative (often not
Does Your BPD Girlfriend Want Space? – Slow BPD Split to Devaluation and Ghosting | Now what?
When a BPD girlfriend or BPD Boyfriend wants space it is a slow split to devaluation and ghosting – Now what? What does this mean? Is it over? Is it a final discard? What is a slow split to devaluation
BPD Discard – Is This It a Final Discard?
Do you have a girlfriend or boyfriend with suspected or diagnosed Borderline Personality Disorder? Have you been ghosted and/or discarded? Is it a final discard? How can you now? Listen to “BPD Breakup What is The BPD FINAL DISCARD? Go
BPD Lack of Emotional Intimacy
People, untreated, with Borderline Personality Disorder, cannot be emotionally intimate, in any relationship type, consistently, congruently, or age-appropriately. What is healthy emotional intimacy? Healthy emotional intimacy requires mutuality and reciprocity. It also requires the emotional intelligence and maturity to be
Borderline Forever Ammunition Codependent Repetition Compulsions Trauma Bonds
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