Rage in BPDThe fundamentally foundational epicenter of Borderline Personality Disorder is abandonment. This abandonment experience can be actual or perceived. Abandonment that is perceived is still very real to the person perceiving it. Many people are unaware of the scope
Rigid Thought Patterns in Borderline Personality Disorder
Rigid thought patterns in Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) are one of the central manifestations of all that Borderline Personality is and means in the lives of those who have been diagnosed with it. Loved ones and family members are often hurt and confused by these rigid thought patterns also. BPD Coach A.J. Mahari identifies three main reasons why people with BPD have such rigid thought patterns. These rigid thought patterns actually trap people in the active throes of BPD until and unless they get professional help to begin to learn how to think beyond the constricted magical thinking of a primitive concept of cause and effect. Primitive concepts of cause and effect that along with rigid thought patterns are at the center of The Legacy of Abandonment in BPD A legacy of abandonment that is the central cause of Rage in BPD.
A.J. Mahari on Emotional Mastery
A.J. Mahari, author, Life/BPD/Emotional Mastery Coach educates on the subject of emotional mastery in general, specifically related to those with Borderline Personality Disorder and their loved ones – non borderlines as well as her Emotional Mastery Life Coaching.
Biopsychiatry – Pharma Funded Scam – NAMI?
Biopsychiatry is all the rage these days isn’t it? How have mental illnesses, like Borderline Personality Disorder, and so many others, suddenly become pathologized beyond belief with a new stigma – “brain disorder” – the message that implies the need for pharmaceuticals. A message that the National Association of Mental Health (NAMI) in the United States has forwarded. As if drugs are, or will someday be, the “cure”. As if drugs are the answer. Says who? Who do you believe?
Intimacy and Borderline Personality Means Push-Pull
Borderlines are incapable of intimacy which leaves loved ones and family members – non borderlines -experiencing borderline push-pull which can be crazy-making. By the very nature of BPD, borderlines as the result of their defense mechanisms of splitting, projection, and narcissism, can’t help but push-pull. When those with untreated Borderline Personality Disorder try to get close to someone – attain emotional intimacy – they immediately fear engulfment so they push away or push the non borderline away.
Cure For Borderline Personality Disorder
Is there a cure for Borderline Personality Disorder? (BPD) How can you evaluate online information that promises to tell you about a cure if you buy a product or a certain book about a cure? Can you trust pitches that claim to tell you that they can cure BPD? Are they sales pitches or reality? Can loved ones of those with BPD trust pitches that promise to help them save relationships by purchasing information that advertises the cure for BPD or claims that someone has “solved” BPD in some nice neat across-the-board way?
Emotional Dysregulation In Borderline Personality Disorder
Borderline Personality Disorder Inside Out Audio Podcast by author and Life Coach and BPD/Mental Health Coach, A.J. Mahari. December 12, 2009 – Emotional Dysregulation in Borderline Personality Disorder.
Emotional dysregulation is at the heart of so much of the way that people with BPD experience daily life. It is also at the heart of how their loved ones experience them. Emotional dysregulation in BPD causes those with BPD a lot of pain and suffering. It often hurts and confuses loved ones as well.
Loneliness in Borderline Personality Disorder
Borderline Personality Disorder Inside Out Audio Podcast by author and Life Coach and BPD/Mental Health Coach, A.J. Mahari. December 14, 2009 – Loneliness in Borderline Personality Disorder.
People with Borderline Personality Disorder can’t help but experience a profound loneliness in whatever way that manifests for them because they are not connected to any stable sense of self – to the authentic self. This means that people with BPD are not only lonely in the world, they are lonely firstly and foremostly from within – living in and from an internally isolated and disconnected, often alienated, abyss where that sense of self should be.
The Search for Awareness In Borderline Personality Disorder
Borderline Personality Disorder Inside Out Audio Podcast by author and Life Coach and BPD/Mental Health Coach, A.J. Mahari. Awareness in BPD – December 11, 2009. Awareness is often elusive for those with BPD. People with Borderline Personality Disorder are often
The Ultimate Christmas Gift: Renewed Appreciation for the Lord’s Prayer
Posted by A.J. Mahari on December 10, 2009 · By Kathleen McGowan, Author of The Source of Miracles: 7 Steps to Transforming Your Life through the Lord’s Prayer We are often reminded this time of year, and rightfully so, that
When One Loves To Read Every Book Is A World Waiting To Be Born
It is important to realize the fundamental and vital role that books play in our lives. Books are vehicles for education, connection, and entertainment. Books serve many purposes both for those who write them and those who read them. The
Pets and Vaccinations – Helpful or Harmful?
Posted by A.J. Mahari on November 22, 2009 I have had pets most of my adult life. I am a cat and dog lover. We have laws that require us to vaccinate our pets. Our veterinarians remind us yearly that
Inside The Borderline Mind: Beyond BPD Jargon – Deeper Understanding For Loved Ones
The many distorted and wounded aspects inside the borderline mind means that there is much for loved ones to learn about the inner-workings of BPD so that they can further understand how to best cope with someone in their lives with Borderline Personality Disorder. What, if anything, do the terms “high-functioning” or “low functioning” applied to Borderline Personality Disorder mean?
BPD Recovery and Lost Relationships
Does recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder mean recovering lost relationships, friendships, or even family connections? In my experience the answer is often – no. It is important to grieve, let go and move on and to learn from past failed interpersonal dynamics so that they are not repeated in the future. What was then, was then. This is now. There are new people to meet, new relationships to forge and a recovered borderline has him/herself to fall back on in the meantime. Trying to turn back time can mean risking your recovery. It can mean falling back into old unhealthy patterns of relating. This, along with the reality of too much damage often done when one has BPD, means that moving forward is not only best for those you have hurt in the past, but it is also best for you as you continue to build your new life in recovery from BPD.
Can Meditation Transform the World?
By Ed and Deb Shapiro, Authors of Be the Change: How Meditation Can Transform You and the World Meditation is now the IN thing. Cross-legged yogis and Buddhist monks can be seen in advertisements for everything from computers and credit cards
Recovery From Sexual Abuse Is A Journey
p>Posted by A.J. Mahari on October 30, 2009 Author and Life Coach, A.J. Mahari, talks about the reality that sexual abuse recovery is a journey. In many ways it is a life long journey. The actual healing process of recovery
The View’s Joy Behar Stigmatized Borderline Personality Disorder
The View Co-host Joy Behar stigmatized Borderline Personaity Disorder on their Wednesday October 21, 2009 show in an interview with Glenn Close and her sister who were guests to talk about the importance of combating the stigma against mental illness, namely Bioplar Disorder, which Close’s sister has. Joy Behar, for some reason, who knows why, first had to further stigmatize BPD with inaccurate, uneducated information.
The View’s Joy Behar Stigmatizes Borderline Personality Disorder
Borderline Personality Disorder has long been the most stigmatized mental illness. Add to this now The View Co-host Joy Behar stigmatizing Borderline Personality Disorder ever further. On The View’s Wednesday October 21, 2009 show in an interview with Glenn Close and
Invalidation in Borderline Personality Disorder
Much is being learned about various biological or neuro-biological implications for those diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. Whatever one believes about recent scientific exploration, the jury is still out in terms of proven and agreed upon conclusions. Invalidation in one’s environment, growing up, as a child remains a strong common denominator in the reported experience of most, if not all, who have Borderline Personality Disorder. Invalidation in Borderline Personality Disorder remains a central ingredient in so much of the relational difficulty for those with BPD and their loved ones.
Loneliness – Pervasive, Powerful, & Purposeful
Posted by A.J. Mahari on October 19, 2009 Loneliness is, on one level a universal experience. There is a collective experience, to some degree, by each and every living individual of what it means, from time to time, to be