Invalidation in Borderline Personality Disorder

Much is being learned about various biological or neuro-biological implications for those diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. Whatever one believes about recent scientific exploration, the jury is still out in terms of proven and agreed upon conclusions. Invalidation in one’s environment, growing up, as a child remains a strong common denominator in the reported experience of most, if not all, who have Borderline Personality Disorder. Invalidation in Borderline Personality Disorder remains a central ingredient in so much of the relational difficulty for those with BPD and their loved ones.

A.J. Mahari Coaches Loved Ones of BPD

Author, Life and BPD Coach, A.J. Mahari, empowers loved ones of those with Borderline Personality Disorder to take care of themselves, cope more effectively with someone with BPD in their lives, and to find their own healing on the other side of BPD via her coaching services for loved ones of those with BPD. Read what a few of her non borderline clients are saying about working with A.J. as a life coach and watch A.J.’s video where she talks about her work coaching loved ones of those with BPD.

Adult Child of Borderline Mother and Closure

The adult child of a mother with Borderline Personality Disorder faces a legacy of loss. Author, Mental Health and Life Coach, A.J. Mahari, on the need for closure when relational reparation is not possible. Mahari shares her own experience as the adult child of a borderline mother (and father) and how she finally did get closure in her audio Closure for the Adult Child of the Borderline Mother available at Phoenix Rising Publications

Splitting, Devaluation, Projection, and Lack of Trust in Borderline Personality Disorder

Borderline Personality Disorder is manifested largely through the defense mechanism of splitting. Splitting is vacillating between the extremes of idealization and devaluation. What results from the negative half of splitting – devaluation is projection and lack of trust. A.J. Mahari, author, speaker, mental health and life coach, in a video, talks about how the negative thinking experienced in the devaluing half of borderline splitting obliterates idealization and produces a marked shift in the mood and behaviour of the borderline.

Borderline Personality – Non Borderlines Unhooking – Living Your Questions

Many loved ones of those with Borderline Personality Disorder need to unhook from what has become a toxic relational dynamic. A relational dynamic and experience that threatens non borderlines with a loss of self that often leads them not only to be stressed out but also to become more reactionary and in some ways mirror the behaviour of the person in their lives with BPD.

Borderline Personality Disorder – Fault vs Responsibility

Borderline Personality Disorder is a serious and complicated mental illness. It does not have to be a life sentence however. People with BPD will benefit from learning to take in the paradox of fault versus responsibility. Author, speaker, Mental Health and Life Coach A.J. Mahari, talking to a BPD Group explains the reality of fault versus responsibility in Borderline Personality Disorder and its connection to BPD recovery.

A.J. Mahari’s Videos On Borderline Personality Disorder for those with BPD and Loved Ones of BPD

Author, speaker, mental health and life coach, A.J. Mahari, herself a woman who recovered from Borderline Personality Disorder 14 years ago has many edited, up-dated, and new videos on various aspects and facets of Borderline Personality Disorder for those with BPD and for family members, loved ones, ex or relationship partners of those with BPD – non borderlines.

Borderline Personality Disorder – Understanding versus Being Understood

Borderline Personality Disorder and the borderline and non borderline quest to understand more about Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) along with both sides needing to be understood. Borderlines and non borderlines, emotionally and relationally, live in parallel universes. Trying to achieve a collective and lasting connected understanding is, more often than not, very challenging at best.

Splitting in Borderline Personality – Understanding for Loved Ones

Borderline splitting and loved ones understanding – If you are a loved one, family member or relationship partner of someone with Borderline Personality Disorder, A.J. Mahari, mental health and life coach, in an audio program talks about Borderline Splitting to help loved ones better understand it and the reality that they really cannot rescue someone with Borderline Personality Disorder.

Borderline Personality Disorder Recovery Centers on Choice

Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder has two main ingredients, gaining more insight about choices made and learning to make new choices, as well as learning how to take personal responsibility. For those with BPD, taking personal responsibility means facing their abandoned pain understanding that continuing to try to avoid that pain will only keep them stuck. This journey from one’s abandoned pain and a victim mentality that doesn’t “emotionally” understand choices made and new choices that need to be made, is the journey From False Self to Authentic Self.

Tough Love and Its Effectiveness for Loved Ones of Those with Borderline Personality

Tough love can be very effective for those with loved ones with Borderline Personality Disorder. It is important to approach tough love in a way that is not polarized or absolute. In part two of her video podcast on the subject of tough love for loved ones of those with Borderline Personality Disorder, author, speaker, life coach and strategist, A.J. Mahari, speaking to a group of Loved Ones of those with BPD, talks about the value of tough love and how it was tough love that was at the center of her own recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder 14 years ago.