A.J. Mahari is a Life Coach that helps people cope with and work through the painful consequences of having been bullied. Bullies, in adulthood, try to personify power because they feel helpless and out of control. They tell lies and
Who is Responsibile For Your Happiness?
Who is responsible for your happiness? Many people are seeking to find validation, fulfillment, and happiness from outside of themselves. From others or from what they do or what they have materialistically. Just who is responsible for your happiness? Have
It Takes Courage To Be Who You Really Are
We live in a world that values sameness. We live in a world where wars are waged and violent hate and discrimination flourish as the result of the intolerance that exists in the face of difference. It takes courage to
Shifting the Paradigm of Borderline Personality
Life Coach, Author, BPD and Mental Health Coach, A.J. Mahari invites you to get beyond the traditional old-school “pathologizing” and stigmatzing ideas about Borderline Personality “Disorder” with an open mind. There is a lot to be gained from thinking outside
Preoccupy Your Gremlin and Get Unstuck
Most people have hopes and dreams. Most people understand what it will take to get to those dreams. And most people at some point in their lives accept that they probably won’t get there and give up hope. Why? Because
Achieve your goals: Find Out What Is Blocking you?
Many people find that their lives are not fulfilling – that they are unhappy. Many people are not exactly sure why. Often what is at the core of many issues in people’s lives is that they have not actually set
Footsteps of the Past Obstruct The Here and Now
As a Counselor Life Coach, BPD Coach and Mental Health Coach, A.J. Mahari talks with clients every day who are in the on-going experience of having their footsteps from the past obstruct their here-and-now in ways that mean unidentified and
The Co-Dependent’s 12 Steps
A major consequence of unresolved abandonment is codependence. Codependence is very common for many who struggle with issues that they may not recognize stem from unresolved abandonment that see them in unhealthy relationships. Often people with unresolved abandonment issues will
Core of Toxic Relationships – Codependence
Codependence is a mindset that is at the core of toxic relating and toxic, enmeshed, relationships. It is mindset that leads people, often without being aware of it, to try to get their needs met by and/or through others. Neediness
Suffering is a Choice Related to Unresolved Abandonment Issues
Many people experience their emotional suffering as something that is outside of them. Something over which they have no control. The fact is that suffering is really a choice. Say what? Before you get angry or think I’m trying to
Non Borderline Recovery – Life Coach A.J. Mahari
Non Borderlines, Loved ones of those with Borderline Personality need their own recovery. Author, Life Coach, BPD/Mental Health Coach and Self Improvement Coach, A.J. Mahari talks about this in her latest video. Most of those who are familiar with Borderline
What BPD Loved Ones Need To Know About The Borderline False Self and Their Own Feelings of Guilt
Loved ones, especially partners, of those with BPD, need to know more and understand more about the false self in Borderline Personality Disorder and how it can leave you feeling empathy, sorry for, and/or guilty about your reactions or feelings
Radical Acceptance of Where You Are and Why – Loved Ones of BPD
BPD and BPD Loved Ones Coach, A.J. Mahari talks, in this 138 minute audio, about what people on the other side of BPD – Loved Ones of BPD really need to know and understand to understand more about what is
Benzodiazepine Recovery Tips
1. Recovery from being an accidental addict to benzodiazepines is serious. It takes time for the central nervous system to heal and for neurotransmitters to stop being sensitive. None of us had the faintest idea that this kind of situation
Psychiatric Medications Are Contraindicated in The Treatment of Borderline Personality
Psychiatric medications are a much talked about subject in mental health and among mental health Coaches and advocates like myself. Why? Because the evidence is mounting that these drugs do way more harm than good. The evidence is mounting that
Myths and Facts about Borderline Personality
There are so many myths and facts about Borderline Personality Disorder and some even overlap each other. While it would be difficult to even try to compile a list of all of them, suffice to say that many things said
Mind Brain Connection – Neuroplasticity of the Brain
Science is now learning more about neuroplasticity by studying Tibetan Monks. Compassion is thought to be very central to gamma activity which is an example of neuroplastic change. There are many parallels between modern science and the Buddhism view. More
Toxic People – Instincts and Knowing – The Salve That Can Protect Us From Them
When someone tells you who they are, believe them. What is often not thought about in the arena of human life is that for all of the ability we have to think, feel, and perceive that may set us apart
Suffering is a Choice Related to Unresolved Abandonment Issues
Many people experience their emotional suffering as something that is outside of them. Something over which they have no control. The fact is that suffering is really a choice. Say what? Before you get angry or think I’m trying to
Unresolved Abandonment and Negative Expectations – Break Free
Life Coach and author, A.J. Mahari, has many coaching clients who are dealing with varying levels of consequences, in their own individual lives and life situations, that are all related to unresolved abandonment issues. Unresolved childhood abandonment issues are often
