We live in a world that values sameness. We live in a world where wars are waged and violent hate and discrimination flourish as the result of the intolerance that exists in the face of difference. It takes courage to
Preoccupy Your Gremlin and Get Unstuck
Most people have hopes and dreams. Most people understand what it will take to get to those dreams. And most people at some point in their lives accept that they probably won’t get there and give up hope. Why? Because
Achieve your goals: Find Out What Is Blocking you?
Many people find that their lives are not fulfilling – that they are unhappy. Many people are not exactly sure why. Often what is at the core of many issues in people’s lives is that they have not actually set
Footsteps of the Past Obstruct The Here and Now
As a Counselor Life Coach, BPD Coach and Mental Health Coach, A.J. Mahari talks with clients every day who are in the on-going experience of having their footsteps from the past obstruct their here-and-now in ways that mean unidentified and
7 Central Principles of Personal Mastery
Principles behind personal and self mastery are actually fundamental concepts that are essential when building relationships – professional, social, interpersonal, and spiritual. The first principle stresses being aware of how you define success. In personal mastery, along with its central
Mind Brain Connection – Neuroplasticity of the Brain
Science is now learning more about neuroplasticity by studying Tibetan Monks. Compassion is thought to be very central to gamma activity which is an example of neuroplastic change. There are many parallels between modern science and the Buddhism view. More
Meditation and Knowing Your Soul
Oprah talks with Deepak Chopra who shares his wisdom about unity consciousness, spirituality, equanimity, and so much more. Together they share so much wisdom and soul “food”. Not the least of which is that we are all connected in what
3 Ways To De-Stress
If the challenges of everyday life are increasing your stress levels, you will benefit by learning to let that stress go. Holding onto your stress compounds it. Nurturing self-care can help you to de-stress before you end up carrying around
Be Confident – Affirmation
How to learn to be more confident in yourself and in what is changing in you and around you along with how you cope with stress. Be confident – an affirmation to help you think more about what you need
Overcome Obstacles To Success
In order for anyone to be successful, they, at some point in time, will have to overcome a obstacles that challenge their goals and dreams. In order to be successful, you have to overcome a many things. Some of those
5 Tips to Define Clear Goals
Without clear goals you can end up confused about what you want to achieve, and you may be putting yourself putting roadblocks between yourself and your desired goals. Clear goals can give you tremendous momentum and intense purpose in your
Embrace Mistakes & Roadblocks – Overcome Challenges in Your Life
Life Coach, BPD/Mental Health and Self Improvement Coach, A.J. Mahari has a 63 minute audio available called, Embrace Mistakes & Roadblocks – Learn To Overcome Challenges in Your Life . Designed to help you to learn more about effective coping
Treatment For Borderline Personality Does Not Mean Psychiatric Meds
BPD Coach and Peer-Therapist, A.J. Mahari, who recovered from Borderline Personality Disorder in 1995, has a new website that focuses on holistic and alternative as well as some aspects of traditional treatment for BPD. Mahari was the child and later the adult-child of 2 Borderline Parents. She is the Ex of person with BPD/NPD that she was in a relationship with and that she ended and then had to recover from as an Ex-Partner of someone with BPD/NPD, years after her recovery. She has been coaching clients since 2000.
Thought Changing Affirmations A Major Part of Recovery From Borderline Personality Disorder
Author, Life Coach, BPD/Mental Health and Self Improvement Coach, A.J. Mahari now has her Thought Changing Affirmations Handbooks 5 Volume Set available. Through the use of these positive affirmations, one a day, or one a week, you can learn to change your negative painful thoughts into more positive pain-neutral and/or happy contented thoughts. Whatever the mind can conceive it can achieve. If you want and need to stop suffering and to experience more peace, more calm, less to eventually no emotional dysregulation in your life than Mahari’s 5 Volume Set of Changing Your Thought Positive Affirmation Handbooks will be invaluable to you in your recovery process. A natural way to help empower your own recovery. A natural way that you have control over to change your negative thoughts into positive ones. You will feel so much better about yourself. Thoughts define our experience. What you think really controls what you experience, your pain, difficulty in relating to others, in relationships, in knowing who you are and so much more. It is all generated by the rigid thought patterns you’ve built up from a very young age and added to over the years. Affirmations might sound silly, or hardly like a hopeful solution to improve the quality of your life, but take it from Mahari who not only knows this and witnesses incredible change in the clients she coaches but she knows this first hand having recovered from BPD in 1995.
Borderline Personality Disorder – Recovery is Possible!
As an Author, Life Coach, BPD/Mental Health Coach, I know first-hand that recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder is very possible because I recovered from BPD in 1995. I also coach many clients with BPD that are in the active process of recovery now. I know what recovery from BPD is, means, looks like, feels like, and what it entails because I have been through it. And, an important point I want to stress for you to think about today, if you have BPD, is that when I recovered in 1995 – which was an unfolding process over eight years that culminated in recovery as the result of a 7 month out-patient group therapy experience that was eclectic but mainly based in Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) – I did not take psychiatric medication. This is how and why I know that medication, while it can be helpful in some cases, for some period of limited time in conjunction with therapy, is not in any way what makes or breaks recovery.
Paradox and Recovery From Borderline Personality Disorder
Author, Life Coach, BPD and Mental Health Coach, A.J. Mahari talks about the central paradox at the heart of recovery from BPD. People with BPD have layered defenses against emotional pain that they do not know how to cope with. It is that very pain that must be felt, re-integrated and coped with that is at the heart of the process of recovery from BPD – that’s the paradox. For many with BPD it is a living-paradox experienced as hopelessness and helplessness. Yet, this living-paradox when it comes to BPD and specifically recovery from BPD is really a source of hope but one must first overcome his or her fear of the unknown and open up to learning to cope with their emotions.
Stop Overreacting – Effective Strategies For Calming Your Emotions
Author, Life Coach, BPD and Mental Health Coach, A.J. Mahari will be interviewing Dr. Judith P. Siegel, Ph.D., LCSW, on Wednesday September 1, 2010 at 6pm EST on her Psyche Whisperer Radio Show Do you overreact to many things emotionally?
Where It All Began Again – Excerpt A.J. Mahari BPD Memoir
A.J. Mahari recovered from Borderline Personality Disorder 15 years ago, in 1995. She is working on a memoir about that recovery. A.J. Mahari first heard those three words, Borderline Personality Disorder, in the dark ages of “treatment”, in 1975. At a time when most mental health professionals deemed Borderline Personality Disorder untreatable and spared little time in banishing those diagnosed with it. Borderline Personality Disorder were three key words that would profoundly effect her life that, at the time, seemed screamingly-quiet words that meant nothing and that quickly faded into an obscurity that mirrored her own lostness.
Accepting The Pain of Transformation
Transformation is a process of change in nature and/or character, as well as self understanding and reclaiming your authentic self, or more of your authentic self. Transformation is about you defining you and not anyone else and not letting society’s
Emotional Competence – Part of Overcoming Codependency
Emotional Competence, specifically, to begin with, learning to observe your feelings without reacting to them, is a central beginning in over-coming, among other things, codependency. Author and Life Coach, A.J. Mahari, knows this from her own journey of recovery 15