Borderline Personality Disorder – Recovery is Possible!

As an Author, Life Coach, BPD/Mental Health Coach, I know first-hand that recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder is very possible because I recovered from BPD in 1995. I also coach many clients with BPD that are in the active process of recovery now. I know what recovery from BPD is, means, looks like, feels like, and what it entails because I have been through it. And, an important point I want to stress for you to think about today, if you have BPD, is that when I recovered in 1995 – which was an unfolding process over eight years that culminated in recovery as the result of a 7 month out-patient group therapy experience that was eclectic but mainly based in Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) – I did not take psychiatric medication. This is how and why I know that medication, while it can be helpful in some cases, for some period of limited time in conjunction with therapy, is not in any way what makes or breaks recovery.

Psychiatric Oppression of Biopsychiatry – Interview with Dr. John Breeding Ph.D.

Are you normal? Do the concepts of Mental Health and Mental Illness serve any purpose other than to divide people arbitrarily and cause people shame that alienates them from themselves? Does psychiatry today, and more specifically biopsychiatry even believe that anyone is or can be normal? What is normal? Many argue that biopsychiatry – the direction the psychiatric profession is taking in defining mental illlness as “brain disorder” or “brain disease” and then seeking to treat it with all kinds of medications, many that do way more harm than good, is predicated on labeling almost everyone with something which calls into question just what disordered means. Dr. John Breeding Ph.D. was my guest on The Psyche Whisperer Radio Show, Wednesday August 4th, live at 3pm EST. You can now listen to the archived interview here. Dr. Breeding talked about, among other things, psychiatric oppression and what mental health consumers really do need to know and think more about when it comes to what mental illness is and how it can be most effectively treated and coped with if it even is what it is thought by so many people to be. What are the implications of biopsychiatry for people given the label and diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder?

Borderline Personality and Pain – The Way To Recovery

Life Coach and BPD Coach, A.J. Mahari, talks about the good news of the pain that is so formidable in Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). For most people with BPD there is a profound amount of emotional pain. Pain that isn’t well tolerated. Pain that they do not have the emotional maturity or emotional skills to effectively cope with in healthy ways. Pain is not the negative that most with BPD think it is and experience it as being. It is experienced negatively because it is thought of and perceived as being negative.

Abandonment Negativity Impacts Hope in BPD

In her latest Borderline Personality Disorder Inside Out podcast episode, Life and BPD Coach, A.J. Mahari talks about what she calls the core wound of abandonment and the negative impact that creates in the lives of those diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). People with BPD need to find hope from the polarized negativity of BPD. Polarized negativity that has its roots in unresolved abandonment. Abandonment negativity impacts hope for those who have BPD and for their loved ones.

Triggers in Borderline Personality Disorder – Gateways To Recovery

Triggers in those with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) cause intense emotional dysregulation. Author, BPD and Life Coach, A.J. Mahari sheds a very revealing light on the fact that borderline triggers when faced, instead of avoided, can be gateways to recovery. Borderline triggers are open wounds that seek to help in the healing and recovery process. They can only help you if you let them. They can only help you if you are ready, willing, and able to face the pain that remains unresolved from past abandonment and/or trauma. The very pain that drives the triggered experience of those with BPD.

Borderline Diary – Mirror Without Reflection – Borderline Mother

A.J. Mahari’s Borderline Diary – My Borderline Years – Mirror Without Reflection – My borderline mother, my mirror without reflection. My borderline mother, blank face, blank stare – angry. Always so angry. How many more times will you reach out to her only to be abandoned again. Only to be rendered just a little more invisible? How many times? She hurts me. I hate her. She hates me. I love her. I hate her. I need her. I can’t stand this.

Splitting in Borderline Personality – Understanding for Loved Ones

Borderline splitting and loved ones understanding – If you are a loved one, family member or relationship partner of someone with Borderline Personality Disorder, A.J. Mahari, mental health and life coach, in an audio program talks about Borderline Splitting to help loved ones better understand it and the reality that they really cannot rescue someone with Borderline Personality Disorder.

Borderline Personality Disorder Recovery Centers on Choice

Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder has two main ingredients, gaining more insight about choices made and learning to make new choices, as well as learning how to take personal responsibility. For those with BPD, taking personal responsibility means facing their abandoned pain understanding that continuing to try to avoid that pain will only keep them stuck. This journey from one’s abandoned pain and a victim mentality that doesn’t “emotionally” understand choices made and new choices that need to be made, is the journey From False Self to Authentic Self.

BPD and The Brain – Cognitive Training Can Alter Biochemistry Of The Brain

Borderline Personality Disorder is thought to be caused by a combination of biological and environmental factors – nature versus nurture. Now scientists are finding that cognitive training can alter brain chemistry. This is what I’ve long since known as I experienced this in my own recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. The good news for those with BPD is that regardless of the degree to which brain chemistry may be altered (yet to really be proven) the fact is that therapy, specifically cognitive based therapy can alter brain chemistry and create the changes required in thinking to recover from Borderline Personality Disorder.

Why Choose Recovery From Borderline Personality Disorder

Author, Life Coach and Strategist, A.J. Mahari, in a video recorded in August of 2007, talks about her choice to recover from BPD – why she made that choice. Mahari also talks about how you can make that choice today, if you have BPD, and you haven’t already made a committed choice to get into the kind of professional help that can and will lead you to the road of recovery from BPD.

Insecure attachment in Borderline Personality Disorder: Links to rage and abuse

Those who are diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder have at the roots of their insecure attachment a rage that is often the source of so much abusive behaviour. Insecure attachment, one of the major root causes of BPD, leaves those with BPD recreating the ruptured relating they experienced that caused their emotional development to arrest resulting in the lost self – the loss of authentic self that is then supplanted by a false self that has no understanding of healthy or consistent relating.