Is there a cure for Borderline Personality Disorder? (BPD) How can you evaluate online information that promises to tell you about a cure if you buy a product or a certain book about a cure? Can you trust pitches that claim to tell you that they can cure BPD? Are they sales pitches or reality? Can loved ones of those with BPD trust pitches that promise to help them save relationships by purchasing information that advertises the cure for BPD or claims that someone has “solved” BPD in some nice neat across-the-board way?
Emotional Dysregulation In Borderline Personality Disorder
Borderline Personality Disorder Inside Out Audio Podcast by author and Life Coach and BPD/Mental Health Coach, A.J. Mahari. December 12, 2009 – Emotional Dysregulation in Borderline Personality Disorder.
Emotional dysregulation is at the heart of so much of the way that people with BPD experience daily life. It is also at the heart of how their loved ones experience them. Emotional dysregulation in BPD causes those with BPD a lot of pain and suffering. It often hurts and confuses loved ones as well.
Loneliness in Borderline Personality Disorder
Borderline Personality Disorder Inside Out Audio Podcast by author and Life Coach and BPD/Mental Health Coach, A.J. Mahari. December 14, 2009 – Loneliness in Borderline Personality Disorder.
People with Borderline Personality Disorder can’t help but experience a profound loneliness in whatever way that manifests for them because they are not connected to any stable sense of self – to the authentic self. This means that people with BPD are not only lonely in the world, they are lonely firstly and foremostly from within – living in and from an internally isolated and disconnected, often alienated, abyss where that sense of self should be.
Pets and Vaccinations – Helpful or Harmful?
Posted by A.J. Mahari on November 22, 2009 I have had pets most of my adult life. I am a cat and dog lover. We have laws that require us to vaccinate our pets. Our veterinarians remind us yearly that
BPD Recovery and Lost Relationships
Does recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder mean recovering lost relationships, friendships, or even family connections? In my experience the answer is often – no. It is important to grieve, let go and move on and to learn from past failed interpersonal dynamics so that they are not repeated in the future. What was then, was then. This is now. There are new people to meet, new relationships to forge and a recovered borderline has him/herself to fall back on in the meantime. Trying to turn back time can mean risking your recovery. It can mean falling back into old unhealthy patterns of relating. This, along with the reality of too much damage often done when one has BPD, means that moving forward is not only best for those you have hurt in the past, but it is also best for you as you continue to build your new life in recovery from BPD.
The View’s Joy Behar Stigmatized Borderline Personality Disorder
The View Co-host Joy Behar stigmatized Borderline Personaity Disorder on their Wednesday October 21, 2009 show in an interview with Glenn Close and her sister who were guests to talk about the importance of combating the stigma against mental illness, namely Bioplar Disorder, which Close’s sister has. Joy Behar, for some reason, who knows why, first had to further stigmatize BPD with inaccurate, uneducated information.
Invalidation in Borderline Personality Disorder
Much is being learned about various biological or neuro-biological implications for those diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. Whatever one believes about recent scientific exploration, the jury is still out in terms of proven and agreed upon conclusions. Invalidation in one’s environment, growing up, as a child remains a strong common denominator in the reported experience of most, if not all, who have Borderline Personality Disorder. Invalidation in Borderline Personality Disorder remains a central ingredient in so much of the relational difficulty for those with BPD and their loved ones.
Loneliness – Pervasive, Powerful, & Purposeful
Posted by A.J. Mahari on October 19, 2009 Loneliness is, on one level a universal experience. There is a collective experience, to some degree, by each and every living individual of what it means, from time to time, to be
Brain Scans Clarify Borderline Personality Disorder
Does the fact that researchers are continuing to make some kind of progress in neuro-biologically discovering aspects of Borderline Personality Disorder mean that there isn’t hope for recovery? As someone who has recovered from BPD years ago, I know personally that the answer is no. There is every reason to continue to believe, hope, and know, that if you have BPD, you can recover. There is no need for some magical-cure-all pill that may never be able to be developed.
“Using real-time brain imaging, a team of researchers have discovered that patients with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) are physically unable to regulate emotion. The findings, by Harold W. Koenigsberg, MD, professor of psychiatry at Mount Sinai School of Medicine suggest individuals with BPD are unable activate neurological networks that would help to control feelings. The research will be published in the journal Biological Psychiatry.”
Ask The BPD Coach A.J. Mahari
Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) Coach, Mental Health and Life Coach, and author, A.J. Mahari has a new mircoblog, Ask The BPD Coach, where she answers questions about BPD from those who have BPD and loved ones – partners and family members of those with BPD. Are there aspects of BPD that you’d like to know more about?
Coping With and Learning From Abandonment Fear in Borderline Personality Disorder
Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) has at its center abandonment. Those diagnosed with BPD have a tremendous and often all-consuming fear of abandonment. They feel or perceive the threat of abandonment in many everyday relational situations. Along with this intense fear of abandonment people with BPD have an equal and intense inability to effectively cope emotionally with this fear of abandonment in ways that would be healthier for relationships.
What was the First Step In My Recovery From Borderline Personality Disorder?
Borderline Personality Disorder, while a very formidable and serious mental illness, does not have to be a life sentence. It does not have to mean you will always be the way that you are right now or that you will always be unhappy and/or in pain. You do not have to always be where you are right now. Recovery from BPD is possible.
Borderline Diary – Mirror Without Reflection – Borderline Mother
A.J. Mahari’s Borderline Diary – My Borderline Years – Mirror Without Reflection – My borderline mother, my mirror without reflection. My borderline mother, blank face, blank stare – angry. Always so angry. How many more times will you reach out to her only to be abandoned again. Only to be rendered just a little more invisible? How many times? She hurts me. I hate her. She hates me. I love her. I hate her. I need her. I can’t stand this.
Borderline Personality Disorder – Thoughts on My Recovery
In two videos available exclusively only on A.J.’s Mahari’s website Borderline Personality Disorder From The Inside Out Mahari shares her thoughts about her journey in crossing the bridge between having been borderline to being recovered from BPD and the sacred reality of the pain that must be engaged when one has BPD.
Borderline Personality Disorder and Rage
Borderline Personality Disorder has at its centre tremendous pain that is protected against through many defense mechanisms that manifest themselves through anger and rage. Author, speaker, and life coach, A.J. Mahari, talks about the main reasons for the anger and rage in and of BPD.
Can Borderline Personality Disorder Be Treated Effectively?
There is a lot of debate about Borderline Personality Disorder. Can Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) be treated effectively? If it can be treated effectively, what does that mean for recovery? What is recovery from BPD? Many new studies now are claiming that BPD can be treated effectively and yet many professionals are still refusing to acknowledge, quantify and/or even begin to explain what BPD recovery really is and means.
Borderline Personality Disorder – Understanding versus Being Understood
Borderline Personality Disorder and the borderline and non borderline quest to understand more about Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) along with both sides needing to be understood. Borderlines and non borderlines, emotionally and relationally, live in parallel universes. Trying to achieve a collective and lasting connected understanding is, more often than not, very challenging at best.
Splitting in Borderline Personality – Understanding for Loved Ones
Borderline splitting and loved ones understanding – If you are a loved one, family member or relationship partner of someone with Borderline Personality Disorder, A.J. Mahari, mental health and life coach, in an audio program talks about Borderline Splitting to help loved ones better understand it and the reality that they really cannot rescue someone with Borderline Personality Disorder.
Borderline Personality Disorder Loved Ones and Codependence
People diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), for many varying reasons, relate in many codependent ways. Their loved ones are often drawn into the toxic relating of enabling and enmeshment. Loved ones of those with BPD need to be aware of the ways that they can learn to disengage the codependent ways that those with BPD relate to them.
Borderline Personality Disorder – Recovery and The Question: Who am I?
At the heart of the process of recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder is the need to find one’s lost self – an authentic self that has been lost to the core wound of abandonment in BPD. BPD recovery requires first asking the question, Who am I? Secondly, it requires finding the answer to that question.