This is a central negative core belief that so many people are often left with from childhood – that Life “Should” be Fair. Let go of this toxic dichotomy of “fair vs unfair” and take personal responsibility and ownership of
How a small decision can turn your life around
Do you think that whatever is difficult or beyond difficult in your life first requires some magical answer that will change everything for you? Many people, without realizing it, “think” or feel this way. It is a natural reaction, in
A Work In Progress
Each person is, if they choose to be, a work in progress. Some are on healing and recovery journeys from past trauma or even more recent trauma. Many are on the road less traveled – the seekers of more self-knowledge,
The Wide Ranging Nature of Personal Development
Is the most relevant question, what is personal development, or is it what is it that isn’t part of personal development? Personal Development is a very wide ranging reality in our lives when we choose to engage it. What does
Live Life Questions Through Radical Acceptance – A.J. Mahari’s Podcast
Everyone has questions in their lives. Questions that they may not know the answer to, questions they may not even have realized they need the answers to yet. We need to live our way to the answers to life questions
Embracing Personal Growth: What’s In It for You?
The pathway to personal growth embraced is at the center of the journey of your life. It awaits you consciously choosing it and implementing it in your own individual life. Achieve more harmonious peaceful and more stress-free mind balance – the
Can’t Have What you Want?
[huge_it_share id=”1″]For many people with mental health challenges not getting what you want or not being able to have what you thought you wanted can be a very triggering and anger-producing dysregulated and overwhelming emotional place to be. It will
Traits of a Healthy Relationship and Healthy Love
There is much written on what a healthy relationship is not. We write and talk a lot about the traits – personality traits of those with mental health challenges and unhealthy relating and relationships. It is equally as important to be
When No Contact as an Adult-Child Is Necessary
Counsellor, Life Coach, and Mental Health Coach, A.J. Mahari, is an adult-child of a Borderline Personality Disordered Mother and (until the time of his passing in 1997) she was also the daughter of a father with Borderline Personality Disorder and
Being Awake, Aware, and Involved In Your Life – Evolutionary Enlightenment
In the process of our own self growth and personal development we are all at varying stages of awakening to our evolutionary enlightenment. Do you seem to be going through the motions in your life? Do you feel like you
Borderlines and Mind Games?
Do people diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder play mind games? Life coach, BPD Coach and BPD Loved Ones Coach A.J. Mahari examines this stressing that the answer to this question is not black and white. The answer is somewhere in
Where It All Began Again – Excerpt A.J. Mahari BPD Memoir
A.J. Mahari first heard those three words, Borderline Personality Disorder, in the dark ages of “treatment”, in 1975. At a time when most mental health professionals deemed Borderline Personality Disorder untreatable and spared little time in banishing those diagnosed with
Partners of BPD – Ex’s and/or On And Off Again – Why?
Life Coach, BPD and BPD Loved Ones Coach, and Author, A.J. Mahari works with loved ones and those with Borderline Personality and has been since 1997. In all of the sessions she’s had with Loved Ones of BPD – siblings,
Can You Ever Really “Go Home” Again?
Most people will be familiar with that old saying, “You can never go home again.” You know, go back to your old neighbourhood, or in my case, since my father got transferred many times in my growing up years, you
Action Strategies to Help You Regulate Your Emotions
Many people, for many different reasons that stem from many different life experiences and unresolved childhood issues or trauma over-react often to things said to them, life, stress, inter-personal relational situations, and find it difficult to relate congruently and consistently
Who is Responsibile For Your Happiness?
Who is responsible for your happiness? Many people are seeking to find validation, fulfillment, and happiness from outside of themselves. From others or from what they do or what they have materialistically. Just who is responsible for your happiness? Have
Desert of Self
Life Coach Zen © A.J. Mahari: “Your body is not in your soul, your soul is in your body” (Deepak Chopra) Acceptance of what is is the way to not only unity-consciousness but also the way to living in the
Self-Acceptance and Forgiveness
Life Coach Zen © A.J. Mahari: Self-acceptance and the ability to forgive yourself is so important to living with a clear conscious and a peaceful heart and mind. The degree to which you accept yourself and can forgive yourself will
Meditation and Knowing Your Soul
Oprah talks with Deepak Chopra who shares his wisdom about unity consciousness, spirituality, equanimity, and so much more. Together they share so much wisdom and soul “food”. Not the least of which is that we are all connected in what
Radical Acceptance Meditative Practice Audio For Those with Borderline Personality
3RadicalAcceptanceMeditativePracticeaudiocoverLife Coach, BPD/Mental Health and Self Improvement Coach, A.J. Mahari in this original Radical Acceptance Meditative Practice audio for people with Borderline Personality Disorder offers an unique and practical way to actually begin or continue to practice radical acceptance while learning how to build some new coping skills that will help people with BPD take breaks from the pain, negativity, suffering, rage, and emotional dysregulation and reactivity that is at the heart of so much of their daily experience.
