Inside The Borderline Mind: Beyond BPD Jargon – Deeper Understanding For Loved Ones

The many distorted and wounded aspects inside the borderline mind means that there is much for loved ones to learn about the inner-workings of BPD so that they can further understand how to best cope with someone in their lives with Borderline Personality Disorder. What, if anything, do the terms “high-functioning” or “low functioning” applied to Borderline Personality Disorder mean?

A.J. Mahari Coaches Loved Ones of BPD

Author, Life and BPD Coach, A.J. Mahari, empowers loved ones of those with Borderline Personality Disorder to take care of themselves, cope more effectively with someone with BPD in their lives, and to find their own healing on the other side of BPD via her coaching services for loved ones of those with BPD. Read what a few of her non borderline clients are saying about working with A.J. as a life coach and watch A.J.’s video where she talks about her work coaching loved ones of those with BPD.

Coping With and Learning From Abandonment Fear in Borderline Personality Disorder

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) has at its center abandonment. Those diagnosed with BPD have a tremendous and often all-consuming fear of abandonment. They feel or perceive the threat of abandonment in many everyday relational situations. Along with this intense fear of abandonment people with BPD have an equal and intense inability to effectively cope emotionally with this fear of abandonment in ways that would be healthier for relationships.

Triggers in Borderline Personality Disorder – Gateways To Recovery

Triggers in those with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) cause intense emotional dysregulation. Author, BPD and Life Coach, A.J. Mahari sheds a very revealing light on the fact that borderline triggers when faced, instead of avoided, can be gateways to recovery. Borderline triggers are open wounds that seek to help in the healing and recovery process. They can only help you if you let them. They can only help you if you are ready, willing, and able to face the pain that remains unresolved from past abandonment and/or trauma. The very pain that drives the triggered experience of those with BPD.

Borderline Diary – Mirror Without Reflection – Borderline Mother

A.J. Mahari’s Borderline Diary – My Borderline Years – Mirror Without Reflection – My borderline mother, my mirror without reflection. My borderline mother, blank face, blank stare – angry. Always so angry. How many more times will you reach out to her only to be abandoned again. Only to be rendered just a little more invisible? How many times? She hurts me. I hate her. She hates me. I love her. I hate her. I need her. I can’t stand this.

Tough Love and Its Effectiveness for Loved Ones of Those with Borderline Personality

Tough love can be very effective for those with loved ones with Borderline Personality Disorder. It is important to approach tough love in a way that is not polarized or absolute. In part two of her video podcast on the subject of tough love for loved ones of those with Borderline Personality Disorder, author, speaker, life coach and strategist, A.J. Mahari, speaking to a group of Loved Ones of those with BPD, talks about the value of tough love and how it was tough love that was at the center of her own recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder 14 years ago.

Why Choose Recovery From Borderline Personality Disorder

Author, Life Coach and Strategist, A.J. Mahari, in a video recorded in August of 2007, talks about her choice to recover from BPD – why she made that choice. Mahari also talks about how you can make that choice today, if you have BPD, and you haven’t already made a committed choice to get into the kind of professional help that can and will lead you to the road of recovery from BPD.

Loved Ones of Those With Borderline Personality Disorder – The Journey

Author, Life Coach and Strategist, A.J. Mahari, has done a two part video series for loved ones of those with Borderline Personality Disorder. Non borderlines face a lot of difficulty, confusion, heartache, and loss on the other side of someone with BPD. For each loved one, family member, ex or relationship partner of someone with BPD your experience, as a non borderline, is a journey.

The Human Borderline and The Non Borderline Reality

The human borderline and the non borderline dilemma. What does that mean? Why would I phrase this like this you may wonder? I can’t count the number of times I’ve listened to non borderline clients I life coach or read non borderlines emails where, in their understandable pain and confusion, family members, loved ones, relationship partners of those with BPD – non borderlines – make statements that question the reality of those with Borderline Personality Disorder being human or not.