Borderline Splitting and Loved Ones Inability To Rescue

If you are a loved one – a non borderline – with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder in your life, A.J. Mahari, life coach and strategist, a woman who has recovered from Borderline Personality Disorder, in an audio program, talks about borderline splitting and the reality that loved ones, non borderlines, cannot rescue someone with Borderline Personality Disorder.

Borderline Splitting and Loved Ones Inability To Rescue Part 2

If you are a loved one – a non borderline – with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder in your life, A.J. Mahari, life coach and strategist, a woman who has recovered from Borderline Personality Disorder, talks about borderline splitting and the reality that loved ones, non borderlines, cannot rescue someone with Borderline Personality Disorder in part 2 of this 4 part series.

Are you a Loved One or Family Member of Someone With Borderline Personality?

Are you a loved one or family member of someone with Borderline Personality Disorder? Are you searching for a deeper understanding of BPD and of how to take care of yourself? Those who have a family member or loved one with BPD, or who have been in a relationship with someone with BPD will benefit from increasing their understanding of both Borderline Personality Disorder itself and the dilemmas that it presents on The Other Side of it

Loved Ones of Those With Borderline Personality Disorder – The Journey

Author, Life Coach and Strategist, A.J. Mahari, has done a two part video series for loved ones of those with Borderline Personality Disorder. Non borderlines face a lot of difficulty, confusion, heartache, and loss on the other side of someone with BPD. For each loved one, family member, ex or relationship partner of someone with BPD your experience, as a non borderline, is a journey.

The Human Borderline and The Non Borderline Reality

The human borderline and the non borderline dilemma. What does that mean? Why would I phrase this like this you may wonder? I can’t count the number of times I’ve listened to non borderline clients I life coach or read non borderlines emails where, in their understandable pain and confusion, family members, loved ones, relationship partners of those with BPD – non borderlines – make statements that question the reality of those with Borderline Personality Disorder being human or not.

Does Your Pain Justify Judging the Borderline Family Member in Your Life As Being Evil?

If you have a family member with Borderline Personality Disorder, does your pain – very real pain – justify judging the borderline in your life as being evil? If you can “paint” them as evil does that make your life easier? Does that change your experience? Does that fix your relationship?

Borderline Splitting & Non Borderlines Inability to Rescue

A major defense mechanism for those who have Borderline Personality Disorder is that of splitting. Non borderlines cannot rescue borderlines. Splitting is one of the central realities in relationship to someone with BPD that hooks, traps, hurts and devastates non borderlines often seeing them try harder and harder to rescue the person with BPD in their lives. A non borderline cannot rescue a borderline.

The Husband of a Borderline’s Dilemma – The Relationship is over but it can’t be over – yet

What is a husband of to do when he feels that, for the sake of his relationship with his children and for their well-being he cannot leave his relationship with a wife that has Borderline Personality Disorder? While it is easy for anyone to say, hey, if your relationship is over, just get out, the truth is that there are many situations involving children, particularily, where things just aren’t that cut and dry.