Why did my borderline mother hit me? Why was that her only solution to what wasn’t even that stressful a situation? Why was it that I could do nothing right in her eyes as a child? Does this woman, or will this woman ever, have even a clue how much she has negatively impacted my life? I have a million questions about so much about my borderline mother. I have most of my answers, not from her, but from the reality that I too was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. Living inside the world of borderline hell has provided me a lot of insight into my mother. But, to what end, I wonder?
Borderline Personality Disorder – Fault vs Responsibility
Borderline Personality Disorder is a serious and complicated mental illness. It does not have to be a life sentence however. People with BPD will benefit from learning to take in the paradox of fault versus responsibility. Author, speaker, Mental Health and Life Coach A.J. Mahari, talking to a BPD Group explains the reality of fault versus responsibility in Borderline Personality Disorder and its connection to BPD recovery.
A.J. Mahari’s Videos On Borderline Personality Disorder for those with BPD and Loved Ones of BPD
Author, speaker, mental health and life coach, A.J. Mahari, herself a woman who recovered from Borderline Personality Disorder 14 years ago has many edited, up-dated, and new videos on various aspects and facets of Borderline Personality Disorder for those with BPD and for family members, loved ones, ex or relationship partners of those with BPD – non borderlines.
Borderline Personality Disorder – Understanding versus Being Understood
Borderline Personality Disorder and the borderline and non borderline quest to understand more about Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) along with both sides needing to be understood. Borderlines and non borderlines, emotionally and relationally, live in parallel universes. Trying to achieve a collective and lasting connected understanding is, more often than not, very challenging at best.
Borderline Personality Disorder and Recovery – Is it science or the self?
Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder is possible. Borderline Personality Disorder is treatable. But, is it about the science or is it about the self?
Borderline Personality Disorder and Awareness
Borderline Personality Disorder Awareness is still something that needs to be raised. Awareness of Borderline Personality Disorder needs to be raised generally. Awareness in Borderline Personality Disorder still needs to be further addressed within the community of those who have BPD, treat those with BPD, or those who are loved ones, family members, or relationship partners – non borderlines of those with BPD.
Borderline Personality – Loved Ones – Questions Can Raise Your Awareness
Loved Ones of those with Borderline Personality Disorder need more awareness. Author, Life Coach and Strategist, A.J. Mahari, poses a few questions for family members or loved ones of borderlines to think about in video from her BPD Inside Out Video Podcast .
A.J. Mahari BPD Awareness Online – Multifaceted and Indepth
BPD Online Awareness Initiative of A.J. Mahari, author, speak, life coach and strategist. Mahari talks about her reasons for pursuing this venue online to increase awareness about Borderline Personality Disorder, firstly for those who have it, secondly for loved ones, family members, and relationship partners and thirdly, she will also address, in up-coming videos, more about what she believes is most important for anyone interested in BPD for any reason to understand more about.
A.J. Mahari Introduces Online BPD Awareness Initiative
A.J. Mahari introduces her online BPD Awareness Initiative to help educate those seeking more information and understanding about BPD in her Video and Audio Podcasts.
The False Self in Borderline Personality Disorder
A.J. Mahari, in a two part video series, talks about the false self in Borderline Personality Disorder. It is important that those diagnosed with BPD gain more insight, understanding, and awareness into and about this false self in order to get on the road to recovery.
The Borderline Mother
In her BPD Audio Podcast, A.J. Mahari talks about the experience of the adult-child of the borderline mother and her own experience with her own mother, who has Borderline Personality Disorder. The legacy of having a mother with Borderline Personality Disorder is often centered around a very painful lack of nurture along with insecure attachment and abandonment.
BPD and Pain
Borderline Personality Disorder is a very painful mental illness to live with for those who are diagnosed with it as well as family members, loved ones, and relationship partners. In her latest BPD Audio Podcast, A.J. Mahari talks about the pain of BPD.
Borderline Personality Disorder and The Pain Of Abandonment
Those with Borderline Personality Disorder have to contend with a deep and profoundly pervasive pain that they often aren’t even consciously aware of. This pain, at the heart of BPD, is the pain of abandonment.
From Fragmented Denial to Understanding in Borderline Personality Disorder
Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) can be reduced to a series of inter-connected and, at times, elaborate defenses that serve to promote dissociation (or fragmentation) and denial – living in fragments of the past superimposed upon the here and now in and through the borderline false self that makes getting to one’s true essence and lost authentic self like walking backwards through a maze.
Borderline Personality Disorder and Radical Acceptance
Radical Acceptance has its roots in ancient Buddhist philosophy. As it is applied to the treatment of those with Borderline Personality Disorder by Linehan in her DBT skills training it denotes the choice that can be made by those with BPD to be “willing” as opposed to “wilful”.
BPD: Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde?
Borderline behaviour is often compared to Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde by those who aren’t borderline and experience BPD behaviour from the outside. Is this really a fair and meaningful comparison? What is this comparison trying to illuminate? Is it helpful to non borderlines wanting to better understand BPD?
H.O.P.E. For Borderline Personality Disorder – Help
There is help to be found for those diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). While the main core of this help is best delivered by professional therapists one must be careful when choosing a therapist. One must also be ready and prepared to take personal responsibility for helping him or herself.
Intimacy With Someone Who Has Borderline Personality Disorder?
Is intimacy possible with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)? Can you really create a bond with someone with BPD? Family members and relationship partners of those with BPD as well as friends often find out that those with BPD are not capable of achieving or sustaining a healthy bond.
Ending a Relationship With a Borderline Parent – Adult Children of BPD
Adult children of those diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder often struggle with many aspects of the relationship (or lack thereof) with the parent that has BPD. Responses of adult-children with a parent with Borderline Personality Disorder to questions from A.J. Mahari about ending the relationship with the borderline parent.
Does Your Pain Justify Judging the Borderline Family Member in Your Life As Being Evil?
If you have a family member with Borderline Personality Disorder, does your pain – very real pain – justify judging the borderline in your life as being evil? If you can “paint” them as evil does that make your life easier? Does that change your experience? Does that fix your relationship?
