Can You Validate Your Borderline Loved One?

Many people who email A.J Mahari, and many of her Life Coaching clients who are loved ones, family members, partners or ex-partners or on-again, off-again partners of a person with Borderline Personality Disorder are asking her about validation. Does it help if you, as a loved one of someone with BPD, learn how to validate and support the person with BPD in your life in how they are feeling and what they are communicating?

Coaching and Understanding to Help BPD Loved Ones (Non Borderlines) Cope with Someone With BPD in Your Life

Loved ones, family members, partners or ex-partners of those with Borderline Personality Disorder are often confused, in pain, and struggling to cope with a loved one with BPD. Life Coach, BPD and Mental Health Coach A.J. Mahari was interviewed on the healthyplace.com Mental Health TV Show on the subject of BPD Loved ones and Coping with someone in your life with BPD. This interview has been broken up into three parts to fit on youtube. You can watch the there excerpts of this interview below or by going to my YouTube Channel

Borderline Personality Disorder In Men – The Myth of High/Low Functioning in BPD – BPD is not a Brain Disorder

Borderline Personality Disorder may still be diagnosed more in women than men. What does this mean? It is unlikely that fewer men have Borderline Personality Disorder. It is likely that the numbers aren’t as skewed as many believe, or as stereotypes and stigma forward. There is a bias among most who diagnosed mental illness. Many men who may in fact have BPD can end up being diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) instead. I have many clients who are men with Borderline Personality Disorder. What is often over-looked is that young children have needs. Needs that must be addressed sufficiently in order for psychologically and spiritually healthy emotional development regardless of gender.

Abandonment Negativity Impacts Hope in BPD

In her latest Borderline Personality Disorder Inside Out podcast episode, Life and BPD Coach, A.J. Mahari talks about what she calls the core wound of abandonment and the negative impact that creates in the lives of those diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). People with BPD need to find hope from the polarized negativity of BPD. Polarized negativity that has its roots in unresolved abandonment. Abandonment negativity impacts hope for those who have BPD and for their loved ones.

Cure For Borderline Personality Disorder

Is there a cure for Borderline Personality Disorder? (BPD) How can you evaluate online information that promises to tell you about a cure if you buy a product or a certain book about a cure? Can you trust pitches that claim to tell you that they can cure BPD? Are they sales pitches or reality? Can loved ones of those with BPD trust pitches that promise to help them save relationships by purchasing information that advertises the cure for BPD or claims that someone has “solved” BPD in some nice neat across-the-board way?

Emotional Dysregulation In Borderline Personality Disorder

Borderline Personality Disorder Inside Out Audio Podcast by author and Life Coach and BPD/Mental Health Coach, A.J. Mahari. December 12, 2009 – Emotional Dysregulation in Borderline Personality Disorder.
Emotional dysregulation is at the heart of so much of the way that people with BPD experience daily life. It is also at the heart of how their loved ones experience them. Emotional dysregulation in BPD causes those with BPD a lot of pain and suffering. It often hurts and confuses loved ones as well.

Lost Self In Borderline Personality Disorder – Need and Search For Identity

People diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder do not have a sense of a known self or a stable sense of identity. In both audio and video, Author and Mental Health Coach and Life Coach, A.J. Mahari, talks about the lost self in BPD and the need and search for the lost self and for identity. Mahari talks about what it means, what it feels like to not know who you are and how that can effect your life and keep those with BPD stuck in the suffering and victimization of past abandonment trauma.

Borderline personality disorder in mom predicts teen’s social problems

Is there a connection between whether a relationship exists between mothers with Borderline Personality Disorder and depression, challenges in interpersonal functioning, and/or attachment difficulties in their children? There was a study done to try to determine the effects of mothers with Borderline Personality Disorder on their teen’s social problems.

Borderline Personality – Non Borderlines Unhooking – Living Your Questions

Many loved ones of those with Borderline Personality Disorder need to unhook from what has become a toxic relational dynamic. A relational dynamic and experience that threatens non borderlines with a loss of self that often leads them not only to be stressed out but also to become more reactionary and in some ways mirror the behaviour of the person in their lives with BPD.

Borderline Personality Disorder – Fault vs Responsibility

Borderline Personality Disorder is a serious and complicated mental illness. It does not have to be a life sentence however. People with BPD will benefit from learning to take in the paradox of fault versus responsibility. Author, speaker, Mental Health and Life Coach A.J. Mahari, talking to a BPD Group explains the reality of fault versus responsibility in Borderline Personality Disorder and its connection to BPD recovery.

Borderline Diary – Borderline Father’s Raging Abuse

Borderline Diary – My Borderline Years – My Borderline Father’s Raging Abuse – Most years I was so protected at Christmas. I had learned my lessons well. Our family was well off enough and toys and/or gifts were always aplenty. But what came with those gifts and presents wasn’t quite the opposite of the spirit of the season – quite the opposite of love. It was enmeshed abandoning betrayal served up as “love” – “love” borderline style.