Codependents are not narcissists and narcissists – specifically the “pretending” to be “codependent” cover narcissists are not actually codependent. Many people have various differing opinions on this. I can see where some are coming from. However, just because to a
Key To Recovery After a Borderline or Narcissist
Many disagree as to what an Empath is versus a Codependent. Many psychologists note that empaths have codependency and are codependents. Some will say empaths have codependent tendencies. This debate back and forth really misses the central point. That is,
After Narcissistic Abuse – Finding Yourself & Cultivating a Healthy Comfort Zone
People who are abused by a Narcissistic or Borderline significant other, boyfriend, girlfriend or a parent from childhood continuing into adulthood, develop what is defined as a “toxic” or unhealthy “comfort zone.” People try to meet their needs in ways
Recovery from BPD and/or NPD Abuse
Are you a loved one or relative with someone in your life with Narcissistic Personality Disorder? A person with Borderline Personality Disorder? Healing from the abuse of someone in your life with Borderline Personality Disorder and/or Narcissistic Personality Disorder is
Covert Narcissists Exposed – The Quieter Narcissistic Targeted Predatory Hatred
Covert narcissists have been referred to as vulnerable or inverted narcissists. Do we really need 3 labels for this one type of narcissist? I think not. A covert narcissist is the same as the vulnerable/inverted. Covert narcissists are known to
The Core of Narcissistic Personality – Overt/Covert Difference
In this podcast episode, also, uploaded to my Youtube Channel I talk about what is the central core of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. And what that central core pathology means to how and why narcissists do what they do. Why they
Narcissistic Personality Disorder – Abuse in All Relationship Types
Narcissistic culture is breeding an epidemic of narcissism, yes, but, even more specifically here I am referring to the increasing epidemic of people with diagnosed or undiagnosed Narcissistic Personality Disorder. The reality of the exploding narcissistic culture that we all
Narcissists Never Apologize – Don’t go down the rabbit hole
People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) never apologize. Why is that? How many times have you been down tumbling painfully down the rabbit hole of trying to be seen and heard when you have had your feelings hurt or your
Why Cluster B Loved Ones More Emotionally Reactive
Cluster B Personality Disorders as defined in the DSM-5 create for loved ones, neighbors, co-workers, adult children, and anyone in their proximity, a “crazy-making” gaslighing, abusive and chaotically devoid of boundaries and limits experience. This hurts even the mentally healthy
Spotting the Narcissist/Psychopath Neighbor
How to spot a Narcissistic and/or Psychopathic neighbor and why it is so important to understand what you are dealing with. What’s different and in many cases so the same with the Narcissist and/or Psychopath neighbor versus if this “being”
Narcissistic Personality Disordered Misogynist Males Abuse of Women They Claim to Love
Narcissistic abuse is devastating. Any and all of it. Narcissists leave untold damage to be healed and dealt with by those they claim to “love”. Narcissists have no idea what healthy love is. For many women the first Narcissistic Personality
Healing from Borderline Personality Narcissistic Personality Abuse – Loved Ones
Healing from the abuse of someone in your life with Borderline Personality Disorder and/or Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a very painful process. Not as painful as being abused is, however. It is a necessary though so that your mental and
Gaslighting Abuse of Narcissistic Personality Disorder – For Loved Ones
Narcissistic Personality Disordered people gaslight their love ones and those closest to them in attempts to meet their own narcissistic supply needs. Gaslighting is a method of psychological abuse and it is very confusing and wounding. All-too-often, so many who
The Hurt, The Shame – The Journey – A.J. Mahari’s Podcast
For so many, there is, from birth a primal pain, an insecure attachment at best or no bonding and no attachment to mother at worst. This creates, depending upon the infant to toddler’s experience, varying degrees of an intra-psychic injury,
Narcissists aren’t born; they are made
This article is from CNN and written by and copyright Ruben Navarrette, March 13, 2015 Ruben Navarrette is a CNN contributor and a nationally syndicated columnist with the Washington Post Writers Group. Follow him on Twitter: @rubennavarrette. The opinions expressed
Traits of a Healthy Relationship and Healthy Love
There is much written on what a healthy relationship is not. We write and talk a lot about the traits – personality traits of those with mental health challenges and unhealthy relating and relationships. It is equally as important to be
When No Contact as an Adult-Child Is Necessary
Counsellor, Life Coach, and Mental Health Coach, A.J. Mahari, is an adult-child of a Borderline Personality Disordered Mother and (until the time of his passing in 1997) she was also the daughter of a father with Borderline Personality Disorder and
Shopping as an Emotional Distraction
For all-too-many people with Mental Health Challenges, shopping has become a distraction meant to substitute for self-soothing, help people forget their worries and fears and emotional or physical pain and try to fill a psychological void with material things. This
Narcissistic Personality Disorder – Borderline Personality Disorder – Compassion for the Narcissist?
When it comes to experiencing being hurt by someone who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder and/or Borderline Personality Disorder can or even should you have compassion for those with narcissism? Having compassion for anyone who is narcissistic, whether they have Narcissistic
Recognizing and Coping with Narcissistic Abuse
Narcissistic abuse can be the result of any unhealthy or toxic relationship with any personality disordered person those with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), and other disorders. Those who have NPD perpetrate verbal, emotional, and/or physical abuse