What is emotional self control and why is it important? What skills does emotional self control require? How you can develop those skills and questions to ask yourself to self-reflect on what you may benefit from learning more about the
How a small decision can turn your life around
Do you think that whatever is difficult or beyond difficult in your life first requires some magical answer that will change everything for you? Many people, without realizing it, “think” or feel this way. It is a natural reaction, in
The Wide Ranging Nature of Personal Development
Is the most relevant question, what is personal development, or is it what is it that isn’t part of personal development? Personal Development is a very wide ranging reality in our lives when we choose to engage it. What does
Dare To Work On The Shame Blocking Your Vulnerability
Vulnerability is a strength – not a weakness. You need to dare greatly in order to work through your shame and emotional pain to clear out that shame from your past and let in the empowering freedom and wholeheartedness of
Patient Waiting Mindfully
Create Your Inner & Outer World – Reflective Meditative Personal Growth
A self-reflection, affirmation, reflective meditative video to help you be with yourself and focus on how your inner world reflects your experience of the outer world. An affirmation of how each individual is a significant and important part of the
Running From The Self – A.J. Mahari’s Podcast
Are you running from your “self”. Do you know who you are and what you want. Do you feel empowered? Too many people are avoiding the kind of self-awareness and understanding that empower change and I help people in Life
Live Life Questions Through Radical Acceptance – A.J. Mahari’s Podcast
Everyone has questions in their lives. Questions that they may not know the answer to, questions they may not even have realized they need the answers to yet. We need to live our way to the answers to life questions
Transform Your Self Talk – Change Your Life
Want and need change of any kind in your life? Begin by becoming more aware of your negative and/or self-critical self talk. Begin a journey of re-framing that negative/critical self-talk into positive affirming self-talk that will transform you in ways
Mindfulness – Living In The Moment
Mindfulness has its roots in Eastern Philosophy and Religion. However, it is also a module in Dr. Marsha Linehan’s Dialectical and Behavioral Skills Training (DBT) originally created to treat people with Borderline Personality Disorder. It has since been used in
The Hurt, The Shame – The Journey – A.J. Mahari’s Podcast
For so many, there is, from birth a primal pain, an insecure attachment at best or no bonding and no attachment to mother at worst. This creates, depending upon the infant to toddler’s experience, varying degrees of an intra-psychic injury,
Have a Grateful Heart In The Now – Soul Philosophy Podcast
I am reviving my Soul Philosophy Podcast. It is but one way I offer and share audio on my blog here and it is available for download on iPhone (not sure about other smart phones) with the free app Podcastomatic.
Self-Care – 10 Keys to Care for Your Mind, Body, and Spirit
Self-Care is often overlooked for a variety of reasons. It is so important for every single person. Why is it so easy that we all-too-often think we don’t have time, that we are too busy, to practice self-care? Personal self-care
Free Yourself From Your Past – Live in The Present
Many still need to free yourself from the past and live in the present. Living in the past can mean reliving either your previous victories or your past defeats. If you are living from and more focused on anything to
Embracing Personal Growth: What’s In It for You?
The pathway to personal growth embraced is at the center of the journey of your life. It awaits you consciously choosing it and implementing it in your own individual life. Achieve more harmonious peaceful and more stress-free mind balance – the
Getting Beyond Negative Patterns From Your Past
Many people, whether they are aware of it or not, are still significantly being impacted by relational, thinking, and/or behavioural patterns from their pasts. These patterns are highly defensive in nature. They keep blocked and stuck from further personal growth and personal
Emotional Intelligence Integral Part of Mind Balance
Emotional intelligence is an integral part of mind balance in action. A mind in balance is a mind that can flow with what is in each moment in a mindful and effective ways. This involves emotional regulation skills that are
Authenticity and The Authentic Self
[huge_it_share id=”1″]A.J. Mahari, Counselor, Author, Life Coach and Mental Health Coach, takes a look at what it truly means, in every day life to be seeking authenticity. Mahari believes that we are all in some aspect of attempting to actualize
How To Accept Criticism
Criticism is a double-edged sword. On one hand it can improve you, but on the other hand, it can shatter your confidence if you allow it. Knowing how to deal with criticism is vital to improving yourself in both your
Adult Children of BPD Need Their Own Recovery
Speaking not only as a Life Coach, BPD, and mental Health Coach, A.J. Mahari emphasizes to you, if you are adult child of a parent with BPD, NPD, or any personality disorder (or combination of said) and/or whose parent(s) were
