What is emotional self control and why is it important? What skills does emotional self control require? How you can develop those skills and questions to ask yourself to self-reflect on what you may benefit from learning more about the
Life Isn’t Fair
This is a central negative core belief that so many people are often left with from childhood – that Life “Should” be Fair. Let go of this toxic dichotomy of “fair vs unfair” and take personal responsibility and ownership of
A Work In Progress
Each person is, if they choose to be, a work in progress. Some are on healing and recovery journeys from past trauma or even more recent trauma. Many are on the road less traveled – the seekers of more self-knowledge,
A.J. Mahari on The Inner Child
Each and every one of us was a child and has an inner child. That’s the good news. The painful reality for too many people is that their inner child is wounded one – separated and isolated from the rest
Running From The Self – A.J. Mahari’s Podcast
Are you running from your “self”. Do you know who you are and what you want. Do you feel empowered? Too many people are avoiding the kind of self-awareness and understanding that empower change and I help people in Life
Transform Your Self Talk – Change Your Life
Want and need change of any kind in your life? Begin by becoming more aware of your negative and/or self-critical self talk. Begin a journey of re-framing that negative/critical self-talk into positive affirming self-talk that will transform you in ways
Audio Programs For Personal Development by A.J. Mahari
Audio Programs For Personal Development by © A.J. Mahari Developing Self Awareness and Creating Personal Life Change Personal Change and Coping Self Help for Change – Healing and Recovery The Importance of Observing The Moment Mindfully – Effective ways
Authenticity and The Authentic Self
[huge_it_share id=”1″]A.J. Mahari, Counselor, Author, Life Coach and Mental Health Coach, takes a look at what it truly means, in every day life to be seeking authenticity. Mahari believes that we are all in some aspect of attempting to actualize
Can’t Have What you Want?
[huge_it_share id=”1″]For many people with mental health challenges not getting what you want or not being able to have what you thought you wanted can be a very triggering and anger-producing dysregulated and overwhelming emotional place to be. It will
Introspection Helps One Heal, Recover, and Grow From Within – 6 Benefits
Life, with all its challenges, pain, difficulty and paradoxically co-existing beauty and ease is all about the learning experiences. Mistakes are growth opportunities and need not be feared. We have all made mistakes and we will all make more. The more open
The On-going Stigma of Mental Health
Mental Health – well really “they” call it “Mental Illness” Stigma is on-going and exacting a tremendously negative burden and price in many people’s lives. It is well-known and yet despite advocates and those trying very hard to dispel so
Being Awake, Aware, and Involved In Your Life – Evolutionary Enlightenment
In the process of our own self growth and personal development we are all at varying stages of awakening to our evolutionary enlightenment. Do you seem to be going through the motions in your life? Do you feel like you
Being Aware of Your Emotional Fear
Many people when they first hear the word fear think of some immediate physical threat or walking down a dark street at night. Fear is associated with as many aspects of human experience as there are people. Fear is all-too-common.
Achieve your goals: Find Out What Is Blocking you?
Many people find that their lives are not fulfilling – that they are unhappy. Many people are not exactly sure why. Often what is at the core of many issues in people’s lives is that they have not actually set
Mind Brain Connection – Neuroplasticity of the Brain
Science is now learning more about neuroplasticity by studying Tibetan Monks. Compassion is thought to be very central to gamma activity which is an example of neuroplastic change. There are many parallels between modern science and the Buddhism view. More
Forgiveness, Healing and Spirituality
We live in stressful times. Each one of us has our own struggles in life. Everyone, at some point or other, in their lives, is looking for ways to increase their happiness, sense of peace, and to create as balanced
Why is It We Need Steps To Cope With Life?
Life Coach and Author, A.J. Mahari, poses the question, why is it we need steps to coping with life? Life is difficult. Many do not get the emotional, psychological, and social tools and skills that they need to be on
What is High Conflict Personality?
In the past there was more focus put on individual personality disorders that can be a source of high conflict. Now, there are references to what is known or described as a “high conflict personality” (HCP). HCP, given its overlap
Radical Acceptance Meditative Practice Audio For Those with Borderline Personality
3RadicalAcceptanceMeditativePracticeaudiocoverLife Coach, BPD/Mental Health and Self Improvement Coach, A.J. Mahari in this original Radical Acceptance Meditative Practice audio for people with Borderline Personality Disorder offers an unique and practical way to actually begin or continue to practice radical acceptance while learning how to build some new coping skills that will help people with BPD take breaks from the pain, negativity, suffering, rage, and emotional dysregulation and reactivity that is at the heart of so much of their daily experience.
Paradox and Recovery From Borderline Personality Disorder
Author, Life Coach, BPD and Mental Health Coach, A.J. Mahari talks about the central paradox at the heart of recovery from BPD. People with BPD have layered defenses against emotional pain that they do not know how to cope with. It is that very pain that must be felt, re-integrated and coped with that is at the heart of the process of recovery from BPD – that’s the paradox. For many with BPD it is a living-paradox experienced as hopelessness and helplessness. Yet, this living-paradox when it comes to BPD and specifically recovery from BPD is really a source of hope but one must first overcome his or her fear of the unknown and open up to learning to cope with their emotions.