For so many, there is, from birth a primal pain, an insecure attachment at best or no bonding and no attachment to mother at worst. This creates, depending upon the infant to toddler’s experience, varying degrees of an intra-psychic injury,
I am An Adult-Child of a Borderline Mother
I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). I was treated for BPD. I recovered from BPD. One thing has remained a constant throughout all the years of my life and all of my healing – I am the adult-child of a mother with Borderline Personality Disorder.
Childhood Attachment And Toxic Relationships
Author, Life/BPD/Mental Health Coach, Toxic Relationship Coach and Self Improvement Coach A.J. Mahari talks about early childhood development its impact on how we either learn to attach or fail to learn to attach and the role of attachment styles in
Toxic Relationships with Life Coach A.J. Mahari
In this Category, Toxic Relationship Coach A.J. Mahari will be providing more information about toxic people, toxic relationships, toxic relating, how to recognize these patterns, what the patterns mean, how to learn from the patterns, and also how to break
Narcissistic Personality Disorder – Borderline Personality Disorder – Compassion for the Narcissist?
When it comes to experiencing being hurt by someone who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder and/or Borderline Personality Disorder can or even should you have compassion for those with narcissism? Having compassion for anyone who is narcissistic, whether they have Narcissistic
Recognizing and Coping with Narcissistic Abuse
Narcissistic abuse can be the result of any unhealthy or toxic relationship with any personality disordered person those with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), and other disorders. Those who have NPD perpetrate verbal, emotional, and/or physical abuse
The Co-Dependent’s 12 Steps
A major consequence of unresolved abandonment is codependence. Codependence is very common for many who struggle with issues that they may not recognize stem from unresolved abandonment that see them in unhealthy relationships. Often people with unresolved abandonment issues will
Radical Acceptance of Where You Are and Why – Loved Ones of BPD
BPD and BPD Loved Ones Coach, A.J. Mahari talks, in this 138 minute audio, about what people on the other side of BPD – Loved Ones of BPD really need to know and understand to understand more about what is
Unresolved Abandonment and Negative Expectations – Break Free
Life Coach and author, A.J. Mahari, has many coaching clients who are dealing with varying levels of consequences, in their own individual lives and life situations, that are all related to unresolved abandonment issues. Unresolved childhood abandonment issues are often
Learning versus Protection in Borderline Personality Disorder
Learning versus Protection in Borderline Personality Disorder is the second video in author, speaker, life coach and strategist, A.J. Mahari’s Online BPD Awareness Initiative – Video Podcast. Mahari addresses the challenge for those with BPD in finding out what they need to learn in order to find their way to the kind of awareness that needed in order to get on the road to recovery.
The Legacy of Borderline Personality in the Life of the Adult Child of a Borderline Parent
A.J. Mahari, author, life coach, a person who recovered from Borderline Personality Disorder, and who had 2 parents with BPD, in a video, talks about the legacy of Borderline Personality Disorder in the life of the adult child of someone with BPD.
The False Self in Borderline Personality Disorder
A.J. Mahari, in a two part video series, talks about the false self in Borderline Personality Disorder. It is important that those diagnosed with BPD gain more insight, understanding, and awareness into and about this false self in order to get on the road to recovery.
A.J. Mahari Interviewed about BPD on the Page2Pantry Radio Show
A.J. Mahari was a guest on the Page2Pantry radio show hosted by Niki Guluchi on KPFK on the subject of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) along with a woman, Wendy, who is recovering from having been in a relationship with a man who has BPD.
Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder – The Lost Self – The Impact of the Core Wound of Abandonment Ebook
Understanding the impact of the core wound of abandonment and its role in the lost self of those with Borderline Personality Disorder, whether you have BPD or love or care about someone who does, is very important to coping with Borderline Personality Disorder.
Rescue a Borderline?
So many people with a loved one, family member, or ex or relationship partner with Borderline Personality Disorder get stuck in what is really an illusion that they can rescue the borderline from Borderline Personality Disorder.
Suicide is Not the Answer to The Pain of Borderline Personality Disorder
For many with Borderline Personality Disorder, suicide, especially in times of triggered dysregulated emotions or loss, can seem like the only solution to end pain that they just do not know how to cope with. Suicide, however, is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
Borderline Personality Disorder and My Choice To Recover
Borderline Personality Disorder is the absence of an actual personality. For those diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, it is not who you are. You can make a choice to find out who you really are in and through making a choice to recover. I talk about the choice that I made to recover from Borderline Personality Disorder and how and why I made that choice.
Borderline Personality – I Want You To Rescue Me – So Rescue Me!
People with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) often are not consciously aware of it but they want to be rescued and they want you – the family member, the loved one, the relationship partner – the non borderline – to rescue them.
Borderline Diary – Borderline Father’s Raging Abuse
Borderline Diary – My Borderline Years – My Borderline Father’s Raging Abuse – Most years I was so protected at Christmas. I had learned my lessons well. Our family was well off enough and toys and/or gifts were always aplenty. But what came with those gifts and presents wasn’t quite the opposite of the spirit of the season – quite the opposite of love. It was enmeshed abandoning betrayal served up as “love” – “love” borderline style.
Adult-Child of Borderline Personality Disordered Parents – The Search for Closure
Adult-children of a parent or parents with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) are often trapped in very painful, dysfunctional, and toxic relationship with their borderline parent(s). What keeps adult-children trapped in the unhealthy, unrewarding, and toxic relationship is the need for validation that could bring about closure to the gaping wound of abandonment.
