What is emotional self control and why is it important? What skills does emotional self control require? How you can develop those skills and questions to ask yourself to self-reflect on what you may benefit from learning more about the
Life Isn’t Fair
This is a central negative core belief that so many people are often left with from childhood – that Life “Should” be Fair. Let go of this toxic dichotomy of “fair vs unfair” and take personal responsibility and ownership of
3 ways to start loving yourself the way you deserve to be loved
So many people were not ever taught how to truly like, let alone love themselves in childhood. What we learn growing up matters more than most would like to know or face and work to resolve. Before you can start
How a small decision can turn your life around
Do you think that whatever is difficult or beyond difficult in your life first requires some magical answer that will change everything for you? Many people, without realizing it, “think” or feel this way. It is a natural reaction, in
An Overview of Complex Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) What is it? Symptoms of it.
In the first episode of my new Podcast, “Pathways To Healing” (I hope you might follow me) largely on everything Cluster B and other relevant information and aspects of healing and recovery from Narcissistic Abuse, I focus on what Complex
Mindful Focus For Just You Relaxation Audio
A Mindful Focus Just For You Relaxation Affirmation Audio is a positive affirming 60 minute audio to help you take a mini-vacation from worry, negative thoughts, and negative core beliefs about yourself that you may be or have being holding
Running From The Self – A.J. Mahari’s Podcast
Are you running from your “self”. Do you know who you are and what you want. Do you feel empowered? Too many people are avoiding the kind of self-awareness and understanding that empower change and I help people in Life
Live Life Questions Through Radical Acceptance – A.J. Mahari’s Podcast
Everyone has questions in their lives. Questions that they may not know the answer to, questions they may not even have realized they need the answers to yet. We need to live our way to the answers to life questions
The Hurt, The Shame – The Journey – A.J. Mahari’s Podcast
For so many, there is, from birth a primal pain, an insecure attachment at best or no bonding and no attachment to mother at worst. This creates, depending upon the infant to toddler’s experience, varying degrees of an intra-psychic injury,
Authenticity and The Authentic Self
[huge_it_share id=”1″]A.J. Mahari, Counselor, Author, Life Coach and Mental Health Coach, takes a look at what it truly means, in every day life to be seeking authenticity. Mahari believes that we are all in some aspect of attempting to actualize
When No Contact as an Adult-Child Is Necessary
Counsellor, Life Coach, and Mental Health Coach, A.J. Mahari, is an adult-child of a Borderline Personality Disordered Mother and (until the time of his passing in 1997) she was also the daughter of a father with Borderline Personality Disorder and
Being Awake, Aware, and Involved In Your Life – Evolutionary Enlightenment
In the process of our own self growth and personal development we are all at varying stages of awakening to our evolutionary enlightenment. Do you seem to be going through the motions in your life? Do you feel like you
Finding Your Voice – Being Connected to Yourself Emotionally
Finding your voice, your authenticity, or more of your authenticity, requires you to seek and remain open to being connected and staying connected to your authentic self emotionally. It is this quest for your own emotional mastery that will teach
Being Aware of Your Emotional Fear
Many people when they first hear the word fear think of some immediate physical threat or walking down a dark street at night. Fear is associated with as many aspects of human experience as there are people. Fear is all-too-common.
The Dialectic Of Emotions
What is an Emotional Dialectic? Among a myriad of other aspects of what a dialectic is or what dialects are it will suffice as an introduction to day that the answer to this question is that a dialectic is the juxtaposition
More Needs To Be Done To End The Stigma of Mental Illness
Tuesday January 28, 2014 in Canada is the Bell Canada Initiative to help end the stigma that surrounds mental illness. To read more about this please visit Healthyminds.ca The stigma surrounding mental illness is a real obstacle for many in
Who is Responsibile For Your Happiness?
Who is responsible for your happiness? Many people are seeking to find validation, fulfillment, and happiness from outside of themselves. From others or from what they do or what they have materialistically. Just who is responsible for your happiness? Have
Preoccupy Your Gremlin and Get Unstuck
Most people have hopes and dreams. Most people understand what it will take to get to those dreams. And most people at some point in their lives accept that they probably won’t get there and give up hope. Why? Because
7 Central Principles of Personal Mastery
Principles behind personal and self mastery are actually fundamental concepts that are essential when building relationships – professional, social, interpersonal, and spiritual. The first principle stresses being aware of how you define success. In personal mastery, along with its central
