People with Borderline Personality Disorder lack emotional skin. Does this preclude the balanced concept of tough love for loved ones? Whose responsibility is this lack of emotional skin? Do loved ones of those with BPD have to bend over backwards, accomodate inappropriate behaviour that doesn’t respect boundaries, and walk on eggshells?
Tough Love and Its Effectiveness for Loved Ones of Those with Borderline Personality
Tough love can be very effective for those with loved ones with Borderline Personality Disorder. It is important to approach tough love in a way that is not polarized or absolute. In part two of her video podcast on the subject of tough love for loved ones of those with Borderline Personality Disorder, author, speaker, life coach and strategist, A.J. Mahari, speaking to a group of Loved Ones of those with BPD, talks about the value of tough love and how it was tough love that was at the center of her own recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder 14 years ago.
Loved Ones of those with Borderline Personality and Tough Love
Many loved ones of those with Borderline Personality Disorder struggle with ways to cope and choices and decisions that have to be made. Is tough love an option for loved ones of those with BPD? Why or why not?
Borderline Personality Disorder and Awareness
Borderline Personality Disorder Awareness is still something that needs to be raised. Awareness of Borderline Personality Disorder needs to be raised generally. Awareness in Borderline Personality Disorder still needs to be further addressed within the community of those who have BPD, treat those with BPD, or those who are loved ones, family members, or relationship partners – non borderlines of those with BPD.
BPD and The Brain – Cognitive Training Can Alter Biochemistry Of The Brain
Borderline Personality Disorder is thought to be caused by a combination of biological and environmental factors – nature versus nurture. Now scientists are finding that cognitive training can alter brain chemistry. This is what I’ve long since known as I experienced this in my own recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. The good news for those with BPD is that regardless of the degree to which brain chemistry may be altered (yet to really be proven) the fact is that therapy, specifically cognitive based therapy can alter brain chemistry and create the changes required in thinking to recover from Borderline Personality Disorder.
Borderline Personality – Loved Ones – Questions Can Raise Your Awareness
Loved Ones of those with Borderline Personality Disorder need more awareness. Author, Life Coach and Strategist, A.J. Mahari, poses a few questions for family members or loved ones of borderlines to think about in video from her BPD Inside Out Video Podcast .
A.J. Mahari BPD Awareness Online – Multifaceted and Indepth
BPD Online Awareness Initiative of A.J. Mahari, author, speak, life coach and strategist. Mahari talks about her reasons for pursuing this venue online to increase awareness about Borderline Personality Disorder, firstly for those who have it, secondly for loved ones, family members, and relationship partners and thirdly, she will also address, in up-coming videos, more about what she believes is most important for anyone interested in BPD for any reason to understand more about.
Learning versus Protection in Borderline Personality Disorder
Learning versus Protection in Borderline Personality Disorder is the second video in author, speaker, life coach and strategist, A.J. Mahari’s Online BPD Awareness Initiative – Video Podcast. Mahari addresses the challenge for those with BPD in finding out what they need to learn in order to find their way to the kind of awareness that needed in order to get on the road to recovery.
A.J. Mahari Introduces Online BPD Awareness Initiative
A.J. Mahari introduces her online BPD Awareness Initiative to help educate those seeking more information and understanding about BPD in her Video and Audio Podcasts.
Abandonment Wound and Negativity in Borderline Personality Disorder
Author, life coach and strategist, A.J. Mahari talks about what she calls the core wound of abandonment and its impact on the patterned negativity those with BPD live in and through in a video recorded in July 2007,
Why Choose Recovery From Borderline Personality Disorder
Author, Life Coach and Strategist, A.J. Mahari, in a video recorded in August of 2007, talks about her choice to recover from BPD – why she made that choice. Mahari also talks about how you can make that choice today, if you have BPD, and you haven’t already made a committed choice to get into the kind of professional help that can and will lead you to the road of recovery from BPD.
Borderline Splitting and Loved Ones Inability To Rescue
If you are a loved one – a non borderline – with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder in your life, A.J. Mahari, life coach and strategist, a woman who has recovered from Borderline Personality Disorder, in an audio program, talks about borderline splitting and the reality that loved ones, non borderlines, cannot rescue someone with Borderline Personality Disorder.
Borderline Splitting and Loved Ones Inability To Rescue Part 2
If you are a loved one – a non borderline – with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder in your life, A.J. Mahari, life coach and strategist, a woman who has recovered from Borderline Personality Disorder, talks about borderline splitting and the reality that loved ones, non borderlines, cannot rescue someone with Borderline Personality Disorder in part 2 of this 4 part series.
Are you a Loved One or Family Member of Someone With Borderline Personality?
Are you a loved one or family member of someone with Borderline Personality Disorder? Are you searching for a deeper understanding of BPD and of how to take care of yourself? Those who have a family member or loved one with BPD, or who have been in a relationship with someone with BPD will benefit from increasing their understanding of both Borderline Personality Disorder itself and the dilemmas that it presents on The Other Side of it
Non Borderlines and The Puzzle of Borderline Magical Thinking
Author, Life Coach and Strategist A.J. Mahari talks about magical thinking in Borderline Personality Disorder and how family members and loved ones experience it. It is a rather common experience for non borderlines to encounter and be confused by borderline “magical thinking”.
Insecure attachment in Borderline Personality Disorder: Links to rage and abuse
Those who are diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder have at the roots of their insecure attachment a rage that is often the source of so much abusive behaviour. Insecure attachment, one of the major root causes of BPD, leaves those with BPD recreating the ruptured relating they experienced that caused their emotional development to arrest resulting in the lost self – the loss of authentic self that is then supplanted by a false self that has no understanding of healthy or consistent relating.
The False Self in Borderline Personality Disorder
A.J. Mahari, in a two part video series, talks about the false self in Borderline Personality Disorder. It is important that those diagnosed with BPD gain more insight, understanding, and awareness into and about this false self in order to get on the road to recovery.
Loved Ones of Those With Borderline Personality Disorder – The Journey
Author, Life Coach and Strategist, A.J. Mahari, has done a two part video series for loved ones of those with Borderline Personality Disorder. Non borderlines face a lot of difficulty, confusion, heartache, and loss on the other side of someone with BPD. For each loved one, family member, ex or relationship partner of someone with BPD your experience, as a non borderline, is a journey.
Suicide is Not The Answer for Those With Borderline Personality Disorder
Suicide is really not the answer to the pain of Borderline Personality Disorder. You may have once believed that or it may feel like it is the only answer when you are entrenched in black and white all or nothing thinking.
Borderline Personality Disorder – The Lost Self
In her latest audio podcast, Author, Life Coach and Strategist, A.J. Mahari talks about the reality, challenge, and consequence of the lost self in Borderline Personality Disorder. A.J. has also written an ebook on this subject, Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder – The Lost Self – Impact of the Core Wound of Abandonment in which she takes a more in-depth look at the lost self in Borderline Personality Disorder.