This is a central negative core belief that so many people are often left with from childhood – that Life “Should” be Fair. Let go of this toxic dichotomy of “fair vs unfair” and take personal responsibility and ownership of
3 ways to start loving yourself the way you deserve to be loved
So many people were not ever taught how to truly like, let alone love themselves in childhood. What we learn growing up matters more than most would like to know or face and work to resolve. Before you can start
A Work In Progress
Each person is, if they choose to be, a work in progress. Some are on healing and recovery journeys from past trauma or even more recent trauma. Many are on the road less traveled – the seekers of more self-knowledge,
The Wide Ranging Nature of Personal Development
Is the most relevant question, what is personal development, or is it what is it that isn’t part of personal development? Personal Development is a very wide ranging reality in our lives when we choose to engage it. What does
Create Your Inner & Outer World – Reflective Meditative Personal Growth
A self-reflection, affirmation, reflective meditative video to help you be with yourself and focus on how your inner world reflects your experience of the outer world. An affirmation of how each individual is a significant and important part of the
A.J. Mahari – Thought of The Day – Reflection on Words and What they Reflect
“Words are uncertain and speak uncertain things. But speaking this or that they speak us. Love is an equivocal word like all words. It’s not a word. said the Founder: it is a vision, base and crown
Live Life Questions Through Radical Acceptance – A.J. Mahari’s Podcast
Everyone has questions in their lives. Questions that they may not know the answer to, questions they may not even have realized they need the answers to yet. We need to live our way to the answers to life questions
Transform Your Self Talk – Change Your Life
Want and need change of any kind in your life? Begin by becoming more aware of your negative and/or self-critical self talk. Begin a journey of re-framing that negative/critical self-talk into positive affirming self-talk that will transform you in ways
Self-Care – 10 Keys to Care for Your Mind, Body, and Spirit
Self-Care is often overlooked for a variety of reasons. It is so important for every single person. Why is it so easy that we all-too-often think we don’t have time, that we are too busy, to practice self-care? Personal self-care
Free Yourself From Your Past – Live in The Present
Many still need to free yourself from the past and live in the present. Living in the past can mean reliving either your previous victories or your past defeats. If you are living from and more focused on anything to
Can’t Have What you Want?
[huge_it_share id=”1″]For many people with mental health challenges not getting what you want or not being able to have what you thought you wanted can be a very triggering and anger-producing dysregulated and overwhelming emotional place to be. It will
When No Contact as an Adult-Child Is Necessary
Counsellor, Life Coach, and Mental Health Coach, A.J. Mahari, is an adult-child of a Borderline Personality Disordered Mother and (until the time of his passing in 1997) she was also the daughter of a father with Borderline Personality Disorder and
Being Awake, Aware, and Involved In Your Life – Evolutionary Enlightenment
In the process of our own self growth and personal development we are all at varying stages of awakening to our evolutionary enlightenment. Do you seem to be going through the motions in your life? Do you feel like you
Borderlines and Mind Games?
Do people diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder play mind games? Life coach, BPD Coach and BPD Loved Ones Coach A.J. Mahari examines this stressing that the answer to this question is not black and white. The answer is somewhere in
Where It All Began Again – Excerpt A.J. Mahari BPD Memoir
A.J. Mahari first heard those three words, Borderline Personality Disorder, in the dark ages of “treatment”, in 1975. At a time when most mental health professionals deemed Borderline Personality Disorder untreatable and spared little time in banishing those diagnosed with
Action Strategies to Help You Regulate Your Emotions
Many people, for many different reasons that stem from many different life experiences and unresolved childhood issues or trauma over-react often to things said to them, life, stress, inter-personal relational situations, and find it difficult to relate congruently and consistently
Who is Responsibile For Your Happiness?
Who is responsible for your happiness? Many people are seeking to find validation, fulfillment, and happiness from outside of themselves. From others or from what they do or what they have materialistically. Just who is responsible for your happiness? Have
Desert of Self
Life Coach Zen © A.J. Mahari: “Your body is not in your soul, your soul is in your body” (Deepak Chopra) Acceptance of what is is the way to not only unity-consciousness but also the way to living in the
Self-Acceptance and Forgiveness
Life Coach Zen © A.J. Mahari: Self-acceptance and the ability to forgive yourself is so important to living with a clear conscious and a peaceful heart and mind. The degree to which you accept yourself and can forgive yourself will
Meditation and Knowing Your Soul
Oprah talks with Deepak Chopra who shares his wisdom about unity consciousness, spirituality, equanimity, and so much more. Together they share so much wisdom and soul “food”. Not the least of which is that we are all connected in what
