The Suicide Tunnel – Applies to BPD Suicidality Too Feeling Suicidal Right Now? Read This First
Life Isn’t Fair
This is a central negative core belief that so many people are often left with from childhood – that Life “Should” be Fair. Let go of this toxic dichotomy of “fair vs unfair” and take personal responsibility and ownership of
Codependency vs Covert Narcissists
Codependents are not narcissists and narcissists – specifically the “pretending” to be “codependent” cover narcissists are not actually codependent. Many people have various differing opinions on this. I can see where some are coming from. However, just because to a
Co-Morbid Borderline Personality and Narcissistic Personality Disorders
Many people are diagnosed with and trying to live with or are seeking treatment for Borderline Personality (BPD). Many are diagnosed with and over-compensating to live with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Twenty-five percent of those diagnosed with BPD are also
The Wide Ranging Nature of Personal Development
Is the most relevant question, what is personal development, or is it what is it that isn’t part of personal development? Personal Development is a very wide ranging reality in our lives when we choose to engage it. What does
Transform Your Self Talk – Change Your Life
Want and need change of any kind in your life? Begin by becoming more aware of your negative and/or self-critical self talk. Begin a journey of re-framing that negative/critical self-talk into positive affirming self-talk that will transform you in ways
Self-Care – 10 Keys to Care for Your Mind, Body, and Spirit
Self-Care is often overlooked for a variety of reasons. It is so important for every single person. Why is it so easy that we all-too-often think we don’t have time, that we are too busy, to practice self-care? Personal self-care
Introspection Helps One Heal, Recover, and Grow From Within – 6 Benefits
Life, with all its challenges, pain, difficulty and paradoxically co-existing beauty and ease is all about the learning experiences. Mistakes are growth opportunities and need not be feared. We have all made mistakes and we will all make more. The more open
Difference Between a Sociopath and a Psychopath
[huge_it_share id=”1″]There are two forms of Anti Social Personality Disorder. One is sociopathy. The other is psychopathy. A person diagnosed with ASPD is either a sociopath or a psychopath. What is the difference you might wonder? Does any difference really
Shopping as an Emotional Distraction
For all-too-many people with Mental Health Challenges, shopping has become a distraction meant to substitute for self-soothing, help people forget their worries and fears and emotional or physical pain and try to fill a psychological void with material things. This
Social Media, Internet and Real Life Balance
Social Media, like Twitter, Facebook, Youtube, Pinterest, etc, etc, have both positive and negatives in people’s lives. How can you tell what the effects of social media and/or time spent on the internet generally are in your own life? It
The On-going Stigma of Mental Health
Mental Health – well really “they” call it “Mental Illness” Stigma is on-going and exacting a tremendously negative burden and price in many people’s lives. It is well-known and yet despite advocates and those trying very hard to dispel so
Adult Children of BPD Need Their Own Recovery
Speaking not only as a Life Coach, BPD, and mental Health Coach, A.J. Mahari emphasizes to you, if you are adult child of a parent with BPD, NPD, or any personality disorder (or combination of said) and/or whose parent(s) were
Where It All Began Again – Excerpt A.J. Mahari BPD Memoir
A.J. Mahari first heard those three words, Borderline Personality Disorder, in the dark ages of “treatment”, in 1975. At a time when most mental health professionals deemed Borderline Personality Disorder untreatable and spared little time in banishing those diagnosed with
Partners of BPD – Ex’s and/or On And Off Again – Why?
Life Coach, BPD and BPD Loved Ones Coach, and Author, A.J. Mahari works with loved ones and those with Borderline Personality and has been since 1997. In all of the sessions she’s had with Loved Ones of BPD – siblings,
Toxic Relationships with Life Coach A.J. Mahari
In this Category, Toxic Relationship Coach A.J. Mahari will be providing more information about toxic people, toxic relationships, toxic relating, how to recognize these patterns, what the patterns mean, how to learn from the patterns, and also how to break
What You Focus on is What You will Experience
It might sound obvious to say that what you focus on will be what you experience. The point is, however, that so many people are focused on their experience, mainly, negative experience and/or negative feelings in their lives and confused
BPD & Loved Ones Coach A.J. Mahari Interviewed on Empowering Solutions Radio Show
Life Coach, Mental Health, BPD and BPD Loved Ones Coach, A.J. Mahari was interviewed on The Empowering Solutions Radio Show by Susan Kingsley Smith on Blog Talk Radio, Friday October 4, 2013 on the subject of Borderline Personality, what it
7 Central Principles of Personal Mastery
Principles behind personal and self mastery are actually fundamental concepts that are essential when building relationships – professional, social, interpersonal, and spiritual. The first principle stresses being aware of how you define success. In personal mastery, along with its central
Doubt Can Be Erased
Life Coach Zen © A.J. Mahari: Doubt is human. But faith and mindfulness to matters can help you erase doubt. Too many people doubt too much about themselves. Why, if you are, are you doubting yourself? Esteem yourself and know
