A.J. Mahari’s YouTube Channel over 600+ Videos and her Audio Podcast Videos People with mental health challenges, Borderline Personality, Narcissistic Personality, other personality disorders manipulate your feelings and fool you as you fall in love with them. Narcissists
3 ways to start loving yourself the way you deserve to be loved
So many people were not ever taught how to truly like, let alone love themselves in childhood. What we learn growing up matters more than most would like to know or face and work to resolve. Before you can start
Narcissistic Abuse Can Cause Brain Injury That Effects Your Physical Health
Prolonged stress and exposure to narcissistic abuse can cause the hippocampus to shrink, which effects your short term memory. This type of stress, trauma and abuse also causes the amygdala to swell. This is a direct result of the
Re-Frame Your Inner Critic Using The Art of Positive Self-Talk
Your self-talk reflects what you believe about yourself often from an internalized critical voice and narrative of a toxic emotional abuser. A narcissist, borderline or psychopathic parent and/or partner. Narcissistic abuse causes trauma, often resulting in Complex Post Traumatic Stress
When The Target of a A Narcissist Just Flow and Let Go
If you, like I am right now, happen to be being targeted by a Narcissistic Personality Disordered bully, in online, as in my case, or in your personal life it’s key that you know to not bite their hooks as
Can You Be Cluster B Free When That Person is Your Adult-Child?
For those who are in unchosen relationships with someone diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, or Anti Social Personality Disorder – a cluster B personality disorder ever be Cluster B free? In this case any freedom has to
The Only Protection from the BPD, NPD, or Psychopath
What is the only absolute and healthy protection from those with BPD, NPD, or ASPD – the sociopath or psychopath? It is not what you might think. This sure fire healthy way to really protect yourself isn’t about protection at
Why Cluster B Loved Ones More Emotionally Reactive
Cluster B Personality Disorders as defined in the DSM-5 create for loved ones, neighbors, co-workers, adult children, and anyone in their proximity, a “crazy-making” gaslighing, abusive and chaotically devoid of boundaries and limits experience. This hurts even the mentally healthy
Borderline Narcissist CoMorbid Parent(s) – Scapegoated Adult Child
I was the child of two co-morbid Borderline/Narcissists Parents with alcoholism mainly father and his side of family of origin and compulsive over-eating – father and his side of the family. I was the scapegoat child and the scapegoated adult-child.
This is Not The End Conversation on Borderline Personality Disorder
“This is Not the End – Conversations on Borderline Personality Disorder” is a new book out from Althea Press Edited by Tabetha Martin. It is compassionate book for those with BPD, Loved Ones, and Mental Health professionals. It includes insightful
Transform Your Self Talk – Change Your Life
Want and need change of any kind in your life? Begin by becoming more aware of your negative and/or self-critical self talk. Begin a journey of re-framing that negative/critical self-talk into positive affirming self-talk that will transform you in ways
Mindfulness – Living In The Moment
Mindfulness has its roots in Eastern Philosophy and Religion. However, it is also a module in Dr. Marsha Linehan’s Dialectical and Behavioral Skills Training (DBT) originally created to treat people with Borderline Personality Disorder. It has since been used in
Embracing Personal Growth: What’s In It for You?
The pathway to personal growth embraced is at the center of the journey of your life. It awaits you consciously choosing it and implementing it in your own individual life. Achieve more harmonious peaceful and more stress-free mind balance – the
Say No To Toxic Relationships
The more you learn about what a toxic relationship is and means, and if you realize you are in one now, have been and afraid you may be again, you really need to find your way to the kind of
What is High Conflict Personality?
In the past there was more focus put on individual personality disorders that can be a source of high conflict. Now, there are references to what is known or described as a “high conflict personality” (HCP). HCP, given its overlap
Grounding Relaxation Exercise Audio
Life Coach, BPD/Mental Health Coach and Self Improvement Coach, A.J. Mahari, has added to her Coping Tools Skills audio collection with this Audio that is 59 minutes long and a wonderful journey that will help you learn to cope with
Mastering Anger Management
BPD is not a Brain Disease and You Can Recover – BPD Memoir and Autobiography
I now have a new site where I will be sharing much more about recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. This site will include video, audio, blogs, and coming very soon – excerpts from my up-coming memoir about my recovery from
Paradox and Recovery From Borderline Personality Disorder
Author, Life Coach, BPD and Mental Health Coach, A.J. Mahari talks about the central paradox at the heart of recovery from BPD. People with BPD have layered defenses against emotional pain that they do not know how to cope with. It is that very pain that must be felt, re-integrated and coped with that is at the heart of the process of recovery from BPD – that’s the paradox. For many with BPD it is a living-paradox experienced as hopelessness and helplessness. Yet, this living-paradox when it comes to BPD and specifically recovery from BPD is really a source of hope but one must first overcome his or her fear of the unknown and open up to learning to cope with their emotions.
The Search for Awareness In Borderline Personality Disorder
Borderline Personality Disorder Inside Out Audio Podcast by author and Life Coach and BPD/Mental Health Coach, A.J. Mahari. Awareness in BPD – December 11, 2009. Awareness is often elusive for those with BPD. People with Borderline Personality Disorder are often