Codependency is Rooted in Childhood – It’s Not Your Fault – Why you have Codependency is not your fault because nothing is ever a child’s fault. It is your responsibility now to get into therapy to heal and recover and
Borderline and Codependent Denial – The BPD “We” & The Codependent “They”
Borderlines and Codependents both have considerable denial. It’s not manifested in each groups lives the exact same way yet it underpins a lot of this most unhealthy bond. Online Borderlines often use “we” when they share their narrative (often not
BPD Discard – Is This It a Final Discard?
Do you have a girlfriend or boyfriend with suspected or diagnosed Borderline Personality Disorder? Have you been ghosted and/or discarded? Is it a final discard? How can you now? Listen to “BPD Breakup What is The BPD FINAL DISCARD? Go
Key To Recovery After a Borderline or Narcissist
Many disagree as to what an Empath is versus a Codependent. Many psychologists note that empaths have codependency and are codependents. Some will say empaths have codependent tendencies. This debate back and forth really misses the central point. That is,
After Narcissistic or Borderline Abuse – Difficulty of Finding Support and Understanding
Known as Cluster B Personality Disorders in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM 5) the “bible of psychiatry” (for what it is worth) includes Borderline Personality, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and Anti-Social Personality Disorder (psychopaths & sociopaths). These diagnoses are not
Loved Ones of BPD Protect Your Health When Borderline Rages
Many people with Borderline Personality Disorder are triggered often, causing the idealization split to rapidly become a devaluing split that comes with the emotional dysregulation of externalized aggression, RAGE. After the suicide of my partner, 4 months ago, today, I
Externalized Aggression in BPD – Stop Enabling
Many with BPD who pinch, push, or slap a partner or person “close” to them expect others to just tolerate that like there is nothing wrong with it because they “couldn’t help it.” You can’t ever know, anymore than the
Re-Frame Your Inner Critic Using The Art of Positive Self-Talk
Your self-talk reflects what you believe about yourself often from an internalized critical voice and narrative of a toxic emotional abuser. A narcissist, borderline or psychopathic parent and/or partner. Narcissistic abuse causes trauma, often resulting in Complex Post Traumatic Stress
Covert Narcissist Traits – How To Spot The Covert Narcissist
It is difficult to spot or identify the covert narcissist. It can take years for the child/adult child of a covert narcissist to figure it out as is the case for those who fall in love with and get into
Narcissistic Personality Disorder – Abuse in All Relationship Types
Narcissistic culture is breeding an epidemic of narcissism, yes, but, even more specifically here I am referring to the increasing epidemic of people with diagnosed or undiagnosed Narcissistic Personality Disorder. The reality of the exploding narcissistic culture that we all
Narcissists Never Apologize – Don’t go down the rabbit hole
People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) never apologize. Why is that? How many times have you been down tumbling painfully down the rabbit hole of trying to be seen and heard when you have had your feelings hurt or your
The Only Protection from the BPD, NPD, or Psychopath
What is the only absolute and healthy protection from those with BPD, NPD, or ASPD – the sociopath or psychopath? It is not what you might think. This sure fire healthy way to really protect yourself isn’t about protection at
Are you an Object of Cluster B Supply? What to do?
Are you an object of a person or more than one person with a Cluster B Personality Disorder? Either Borderline Personality Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Anti-Social Personality Disorder – the sociopath or psychopath? Do you realize that people with these
Why Cluster B Loved Ones More Emotionally Reactive
Cluster B Personality Disorders as defined in the DSM-5 create for loved ones, neighbors, co-workers, adult children, and anyone in their proximity, a “crazy-making” gaslighing, abusive and chaotically devoid of boundaries and limits experience. This hurts even the mentally healthy
Social Norms vs The Psychopath Sociopath or Narcissist
The vast majority of us (often in spite of how our parents may well have failed us) learn the social norms, values, and morals of what form the basis of what is a social contract that we live within a
Borderline Narcissistic Psychopathic Love Bombing – Red Flags and How To Help Yourself
If you have been, or are being, love bombed by a person with Borderline Personality, Narcissistic Personality, or Anti-Social Personality (ASPD) – a sociopath or a psychopath this video describes what you need to recognize most to help yourself. People
Healing from Borderline Personality Narcissistic Personality Abuse – Loved Ones
Healing from the abuse of someone in your life with Borderline Personality Disorder and/or Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a very painful process. Not as painful as being abused is, however. It is a necessary though so that your mental and
The Wide Ranging Nature of Personal Development
Is the most relevant question, what is personal development, or is it what is it that isn’t part of personal development? Personal Development is a very wide ranging reality in our lives when we choose to engage it. What does
Gaslighting Abuse of Narcissistic Personality Disorder – For Loved Ones
Narcissistic Personality Disordered people gaslight their love ones and those closest to them in attempts to meet their own narcissistic supply needs. Gaslighting is a method of psychological abuse and it is very confusing and wounding. All-too-often, so many who
