The Borderline *Set Up* Hoover The Borderline set up hoover is unlike any other type or generic “average” hoover. The Borderline set up hoover is one that is your BPD Ex plotting to punish you (especially the female borderline vs
Heal From BPD NPD Abuse
A.J. Mahari has 32 years experience in specialized session work with clients who need to heal from BPD or NPD abusive relationships. A.J. Mahari has a 12 Step Heal From BPD and NPD Abuse methodology used in her Cluster B
Codependent Collusion & Self-Abandonment
Codependent Collusion & Self-Abandonment in and after a relationship with a person with Borderline Personality means recovery is two-pronged. On one level you need to heal from the relationship with the person with BPD. You also need to get into
Borderline Entitlement | Internal Split Projected Out
Borderline Entitlement Internal Original Split Projected Out leaves so many feeling blamed and shamed by someone with BPD in their lives as if how the person with BPD abused and/or manipulate you is how you treated them. People with Borderline
Complex Complicated Grief – Finding Peace in The Silence
When a loved one dies, by suicide, or a sudden illness or accident, something especially not expected, grief is usually understood now to be complex and complicated grief. What that means is that people experiencing complex and complicated grief stay
How a small decision can turn your life around
Do you think that whatever is difficult or beyond difficult in your life first requires some magical answer that will change everything for you? Many people, without realizing it, “think” or feel this way. It is a natural reaction, in
Borderline Narcissist CoMorbid Parent(s) – Scapegoated Adult Child
I was the child of two co-morbid Borderline/Narcissists Parents with alcoholism mainly father and his side of family of origin and compulsive over-eating – father and his side of the family. I was the scapegoat child and the scapegoated adult-child.
A Work In Progress
Each person is, if they choose to be, a work in progress. Some are on healing and recovery journeys from past trauma or even more recent trauma. Many are on the road less traveled – the seekers of more self-knowledge,
The Wide Ranging Nature of Personal Development
Is the most relevant question, what is personal development, or is it what is it that isn’t part of personal development? Personal Development is a very wide ranging reality in our lives when we choose to engage it. What does
Dare To Work On The Shame Blocking Your Vulnerability
Vulnerability is a strength – not a weakness. You need to dare greatly in order to work through your shame and emotional pain to clear out that shame from your past and let in the empowering freedom and wholeheartedness of
Mindful Focus For Just You Relaxation Audio
A Mindful Focus Just For You Relaxation Affirmation Audio is a positive affirming 60 minute audio to help you take a mini-vacation from worry, negative thoughts, and negative core beliefs about yourself that you may be or have being holding
Create Your Inner & Outer World – Reflective Meditative Personal Growth
A self-reflection, affirmation, reflective meditative video to help you be with yourself and focus on how your inner world reflects your experience of the outer world. An affirmation of how each individual is a significant and important part of the
Running From The Self – A.J. Mahari’s Podcast
Are you running from your “self”. Do you know who you are and what you want. Do you feel empowered? Too many people are avoiding the kind of self-awareness and understanding that empower change and I help people in Life
Live Life Questions Through Radical Acceptance – A.J. Mahari’s Podcast
Everyone has questions in their lives. Questions that they may not know the answer to, questions they may not even have realized they need the answers to yet. We need to live our way to the answers to life questions
Common Denominator Experiences – Soul Philosophy Podcast
Have you ever had a lot of frustration, or common experiences by way of others that you perceive as people being “stupid”, “incompetent”, “personally against you”, “time-wasting” just plain old unwanted perceived as negative unwanted common experiences? These very Common
Transform Your Self Talk – Change Your Life
Want and need change of any kind in your life? Begin by becoming more aware of your negative and/or self-critical self talk. Begin a journey of re-framing that negative/critical self-talk into positive affirming self-talk that will transform you in ways
Mindfulness – Living In The Moment
Mindfulness has its roots in Eastern Philosophy and Religion. However, it is also a module in Dr. Marsha Linehan’s Dialectical and Behavioral Skills Training (DBT) originally created to treat people with Borderline Personality Disorder. It has since been used in
The Hurt, The Shame – The Journey – A.J. Mahari’s Podcast
For so many, there is, from birth a primal pain, an insecure attachment at best or no bonding and no attachment to mother at worst. This creates, depending upon the infant to toddler’s experience, varying degrees of an intra-psychic injury,
Have a Grateful Heart In The Now – Soul Philosophy Podcast
I am reviving my Soul Philosophy Podcast. It is but one way I offer and share audio on my blog here and it is available for download on iPhone (not sure about other smart phones) with the free app Podcastomatic.
Self-Care – 10 Keys to Care for Your Mind, Body, and Spirit
Self-Care is often overlooked for a variety of reasons. It is so important for every single person. Why is it so easy that we all-too-often think we don’t have time, that we are too busy, to practice self-care? Personal self-care
