Borderline Abuse & Victim Narrative Meets Wokeist Idelology – What’s Next “Borderline Phobic?” A person (male) with BPD commented abusively on this channel. When I deleted the comment, this person with BPD felt entitled to continue an ad hominem “conversation”
BPD Lack of Emotional Intimacy
People, untreated, with Borderline Personality Disorder, cannot be emotionally intimate, in any relationship type, consistently, congruently, or age-appropriately. What is healthy emotional intimacy? Healthy emotional intimacy requires mutuality and reciprocity. It also requires the emotional intelligence and maturity to be
BPD Emotional Radioactivity is Codependent Kryptonite
People with Borderline Personality or NPD are codependent kryptonite. They continue to hurt you where your inner child lives inside of you. They don’t consciously (more w/BPD) do this on purpose but it happens. Codependents need to focus on the
Have BPD? Transference in Therapy – What You Need To Know
For many with Borderline Personality working hard in therapy and building trust with a therapist is not an easy journey or process. To then, when you trust enough, to get to transference, where a therapist needs to meet you with
Loved Ones of BPD Protect Your Health When Borderline Rages
Many people with Borderline Personality Disorder are triggered often, causing the idealization split to rapidly become a devaluing split that comes with the emotional dysregulation of externalized aggression, RAGE. After the suicide of my partner, 4 months ago, today, I
Narcissistic Abuse Can Cause Brain Injury That Effects Your Physical Health
Prolonged stress and exposure to narcissistic abuse can cause the hippocampus to shrink, which effects your short term memory. This type of stress, trauma and abuse also causes the amygdala to swell. This is a direct result of the
Recovery from BPD and/or NPD Abuse
Are you a loved one or relative with someone in your life with Narcissistic Personality Disorder? A person with Borderline Personality Disorder? Healing from the abuse of someone in your life with Borderline Personality Disorder and/or Narcissistic Personality Disorder is
Can You Be Cluster B Free When That Person is Your Adult-Child?
For those who are in unchosen relationships with someone diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, or Anti Social Personality Disorder – a cluster B personality disorder ever be Cluster B free? In this case any freedom has to
Narcissists Never Apologize – Don’t go down the rabbit hole
People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) never apologize. Why is that? How many times have you been down tumbling painfully down the rabbit hole of trying to be seen and heard when you have had your feelings hurt or your
The Only Protection from the BPD, NPD, or Psychopath
What is the only absolute and healthy protection from those with BPD, NPD, or ASPD – the sociopath or psychopath? It is not what you might think. This sure fire healthy way to really protect yourself isn’t about protection at
Are you an Object of Cluster B Supply? What to do?
Are you an object of a person or more than one person with a Cluster B Personality Disorder? Either Borderline Personality Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Anti-Social Personality Disorder – the sociopath or psychopath? Do you realize that people with these
The Wide Ranging Nature of Personal Development
Is the most relevant question, what is personal development, or is it what is it that isn’t part of personal development? Personal Development is a very wide ranging reality in our lives when we choose to engage it. What does
Borderline personality therapy is scarce, costly
In-patient treatment for borderline personality disorder is scarce, costly Menu Courey, a swimmer on full scholarship at the University of Missouri, had borderline personality disorder and was desperate for help in 2011. The wait-list for free care at the Centre
Live Life Questions Through Radical Acceptance – A.J. Mahari’s Podcast
Everyone has questions in their lives. Questions that they may not know the answer to, questions they may not even have realized they need the answers to yet. We need to live our way to the answers to life questions
Common Denominator Experiences – Soul Philosophy Podcast
Have you ever had a lot of frustration, or common experiences by way of others that you perceive as people being “stupid”, “incompetent”, “personally against you”, “time-wasting” just plain old unwanted perceived as negative unwanted common experiences? These very Common
Transform Your Self Talk – Change Your Life
Want and need change of any kind in your life? Begin by becoming more aware of your negative and/or self-critical self talk. Begin a journey of re-framing that negative/critical self-talk into positive affirming self-talk that will transform you in ways
The Hurt, The Shame – The Journey – A.J. Mahari’s Podcast
For so many, there is, from birth a primal pain, an insecure attachment at best or no bonding and no attachment to mother at worst. This creates, depending upon the infant to toddler’s experience, varying degrees of an intra-psychic injury,
Protect Yourself From A Person With Narcissistic Personality
This post is written for loved ones of those with co-morbid Borderline Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Personality Disorder and those who may also have Anti-Social Personal Disorder (ASPD). It is not intended for those with any of these personality disorders.
Authenticity and The Authentic Self
[huge_it_share id=”1″]A.J. Mahari, Counselor, Author, Life Coach and Mental Health Coach, takes a look at what it truly means, in every day life to be seeking authenticity. Mahari believes that we are all in some aspect of attempting to actualize
Introspection Helps One Heal, Recover, and Grow From Within – 6 Benefits
Life, with all its challenges, pain, difficulty and paradoxically co-existing beauty and ease is all about the learning experiences. Mistakes are growth opportunities and need not be feared. We have all made mistakes and we will all make more. The more open