Not all with BPD are the same. Some will never be violent. A smaller percentage of both Men with BPD and women with BPD can be violent physically. Male and Female Borderlines Abuse in many ways. What has been your
BPD Emotional Radioactivity is Codependent Kryptonite
People with Borderline Personality or NPD are codependent kryptonite. They continue to hurt you where your inner child lives inside of you. They don’t consciously (more w/BPD) do this on purpose but it happens. Codependents need to focus on the
Borderline Entitlement | Internal Split Projected Out
Borderline Entitlement Internal Original Split Projected Out leaves so many feeling blamed and shamed by someone with BPD in their lives as if how the person with BPD abused and/or manipulate you is how you treated them. People with Borderline
Externalized Aggression in BPD – Stop Enabling
Many with BPD who pinch, push, or slap a partner or person “close” to them expect others to just tolerate that like there is nothing wrong with it because they “couldn’t help it.” You can’t ever know, anymore than the
When The Target of a A Narcissist Just Flow and Let Go
If you, like I am right now, happen to be being targeted by a Narcissistic Personality Disordered bully, in online, as in my case, or in your personal life it’s key that you know to not bite their hooks as
Who is The Borderline? Lost Self – Lack of Identity – Roadblocks to Recovery?
Counselor, Life and Mental Health Coach, and Author A.J. Mahari asks the question of those Borderline Personality Disorder and BPD Family and BPD Loved Ones alike, who is the borderline? This question is asked to explore the loss of self,
Transform Your Self Talk – Change Your Life
Want and need change of any kind in your life? Begin by becoming more aware of your negative and/or self-critical self talk. Begin a journey of re-framing that negative/critical self-talk into positive affirming self-talk that will transform you in ways
DBT Skills Can Help Anyone
Dialectical Behaviour Training, created by Dr. Marsha Linehan and originally for those with Borderline Personality has since been applied very successfully for to loved ones of those with BPD as well as those with NPD and their loved ones. DBT
Dissolving Past Pain and Moving Forward in Your Life
Are you stuck in patterns of relating in your adult relationships generally, romantic relationships more specifically that are causing you pain and leaving you experiencing failed relationships? Are you still holding onto past pain? Do you have unresolved childhood
People With Borderline Personality and Punishment
People with Borderline Personality often punish others. Firstly, it is important to note that they also punish themselves in the process. However, for those on the other side of someone with Borderline Personality, that’s little comfort, I know. This is
Being Awake, Aware, and Involved In Your Life – Evolutionary Enlightenment
In the process of our own self growth and personal development we are all at varying stages of awakening to our evolutionary enlightenment. Do you seem to be going through the motions in your life? Do you feel like you
Breaking Free of The Borderline Maze – Recovery For BPD Loved Ones
How Non Borderlines can break free from the BPD maze – the emotional rollercoaster of drama, chaos and conflict and why they need to. By: A.J. Mahari © March 2007 Published by Phoenix Rising Publications Price: $35.99 Mahari talks about how
The Legacy of Toxic Relationships – Where The Personality Disordered and The Non Personality Disordered Interconnect and Suffer
Toxic relationships seem to be pervasive to the point where healthy relationships are in the minority. Toxic relationships are proliferating and have been doing so for the better part of the last few decades. Toxic relationships are the coming together
Mother of BPD Daughter coping with bpd splitting by A.J. Mahari BPD Coach
BPD Coach, A.J. Mahari, responds to a mother of a daughter with Borderline Personality Disorder about coping with her daughter’s splitting, acting in and acting out and her concern for her grandson along with her own pain. Loved ones of
BPD & Loved Ones Coach A.J. Mahari Interviewed on Empowering Solutions Radio Show
Life Coach, Mental Health, BPD and BPD Loved Ones Coach, A.J. Mahari was interviewed on The Empowering Solutions Radio Show by Susan Kingsley Smith on Blog Talk Radio, Friday October 4, 2013 on the subject of Borderline Personality, what it
BPD – In Memory of a Client – Recovery Is Yours – Trust the process
BPD Coach, A.J. Mahari, in memory of one of her clients who committed suicide in September 2013, as do far too many with Borderline Personality, talks about recovery and the process and how you need to choose to live long
Who is Responsibile For Your Happiness?
Who is responsible for your happiness? Many people are seeking to find validation, fulfillment, and happiness from outside of themselves. From others or from what they do or what they have materialistically. Just who is responsible for your happiness? Have
It Takes Courage To Be Who You Really Are
We live in a world that values sameness. We live in a world where wars are waged and violent hate and discrimination flourish as the result of the intolerance that exists in the face of difference. It takes courage to
Preoccupy Your Gremlin and Get Unstuck
Most people have hopes and dreams. Most people understand what it will take to get to those dreams. And most people at some point in their lives accept that they probably won’t get there and give up hope. Why? Because
Psychiatric Medications Are Contraindicated in The Treatment of Borderline Personality
Psychiatric medications are a much talked about subject in mental health and among mental health Coaches and advocates like myself. Why? Because the evidence is mounting that these drugs do way more harm than good. The evidence is mounting that
