What is emotional self control and why is it important? What skills does emotional self control require? How you can develop those skills and questions to ask yourself to self-reflect on what you may benefit from learning more about the
Life Isn’t Fair
This is a central negative core belief that so many people are often left with from childhood – that Life “Should” be Fair. Let go of this toxic dichotomy of “fair vs unfair” and take personal responsibility and ownership of
Update – CPTSD Autoimmune Recovery & Complex Grief
My update on my health and more in my down-to-earth casual, no doubt “out of the box” ‘road less traveled’ this way style on a casual early evening, work day complete and mellow relaxed go-with-the-flow in autonomic nervous system (ANS)
Complex Complicated Grief – Finding Peace in The Silence
When a loved one dies, by suicide, or a sudden illness or accident, something especially not expected, grief is usually understood now to be complex and complicated grief. What that means is that people experiencing complex and complicated grief stay
Externalized Aggression in BPD – Stop Enabling
Many with BPD who pinch, push, or slap a partner or person “close” to them expect others to just tolerate that like there is nothing wrong with it because they “couldn’t help it.” You can’t ever know, anymore than the
3 ways to start loving yourself the way you deserve to be loved
So many people were not ever taught how to truly like, let alone love themselves in childhood. What we learn growing up matters more than most would like to know or face and work to resolve. Before you can start
How a small decision can turn your life around
Do you think that whatever is difficult or beyond difficult in your life first requires some magical answer that will change everything for you? Many people, without realizing it, “think” or feel this way. It is a natural reaction, in
An Overview of Complex Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) What is it? Symptoms of it.
In the first episode of my new Podcast, “Pathways To Healing” (I hope you might follow me) largely on everything Cluster B and other relevant information and aspects of healing and recovery from Narcissistic Abuse, I focus on what Complex
Pet Loss and Grief – 7 Days Since My Cat Died
My beloved Calico Cat, Baylee, passed away, Wednesday December 21, 2016 at 3:30 pm. She had to be euthanized due to cancerous tumors. I am writing this blog one week exactly to the day and time that I lost Baylee.
A Work In Progress
Each person is, if they choose to be, a work in progress. Some are on healing and recovery journeys from past trauma or even more recent trauma. Many are on the road less traveled – the seekers of more self-knowledge,
The Wide Ranging Nature of Personal Development
Is the most relevant question, what is personal development, or is it what is it that isn’t part of personal development? Personal Development is a very wide ranging reality in our lives when we choose to engage it. What does
A.J. Mahari on The Inner Child
Each and every one of us was a child and has an inner child. That’s the good news. The painful reality for too many people is that their inner child is wounded one – separated and isolated from the rest
Dare To Work On The Shame Blocking Your Vulnerability
Vulnerability is a strength – not a weakness. You need to dare greatly in order to work through your shame and emotional pain to clear out that shame from your past and let in the empowering freedom and wholeheartedness of
Mindful Focus For Just You Relaxation Audio
A Mindful Focus Just For You Relaxation Affirmation Audio is a positive affirming 60 minute audio to help you take a mini-vacation from worry, negative thoughts, and negative core beliefs about yourself that you may be or have being holding
Create Your Inner & Outer World – Reflective Meditative Personal Growth
A self-reflection, affirmation, reflective meditative video to help you be with yourself and focus on how your inner world reflects your experience of the outer world. An affirmation of how each individual is a significant and important part of the
Running From The Self – A.J. Mahari’s Podcast
Are you running from your “self”. Do you know who you are and what you want. Do you feel empowered? Too many people are avoiding the kind of self-awareness and understanding that empower change and I help people in Life
Live Life Questions Through Radical Acceptance – A.J. Mahari’s Podcast
Everyone has questions in their lives. Questions that they may not know the answer to, questions they may not even have realized they need the answers to yet. We need to live our way to the answers to life questions
Common Denominator Experiences – Soul Philosophy Podcast
Have you ever had a lot of frustration, or common experiences by way of others that you perceive as people being “stupid”, “incompetent”, “personally against you”, “time-wasting” just plain old unwanted perceived as negative unwanted common experiences? These very Common
Transform Your Self Talk – Change Your Life
Want and need change of any kind in your life? Begin by becoming more aware of your negative and/or self-critical self talk. Begin a journey of re-framing that negative/critical self-talk into positive affirming self-talk that will transform you in ways
Mindfulness – Living In The Moment
Mindfulness has its roots in Eastern Philosophy and Religion. However, it is also a module in Dr. Marsha Linehan’s Dialectical and Behavioral Skills Training (DBT) originally created to treat people with Borderline Personality Disorder. It has since been used in
