Borderline or Narcissist Mother Contrast & Comparison – How They Wound Us Having been the child of a Borderline or Narcissist mother means you have experienced childhood trauma. As the adult child of a Borderline or Narcissist mother the trauma
Mother With Borderline Personality Disorder – Wounding Childhood Dynamics & The Trauma Bond
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The Borderline Red Herring Fallacy is experienced by anyone close to a person with Borderline Personality. Especially BPD partners, on/off recycling relationships, BPD Hoovers or your reverse hoovers. What does the Borderline Red Herring Fallacy have to do with Codependents?
Codependency Is Rooted In Childhood – Not Your Fault
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Borderline and Codependent Denial – The BPD “We” & The Codependent “They”
Borderlines and Codependents both have considerable denial. It’s not manifested in each groups lives the exact same way yet it underpins a lot of this most unhealthy bond. Online Borderlines often use “we” when they share their narrative (often not
Does Your BPD Girlfriend Want Space? – Slow BPD Split to Devaluation and Ghosting | Now what?
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BPD Discard – Is This It a Final Discard?
Do you have a girlfriend or boyfriend with suspected or diagnosed Borderline Personality Disorder? Have you been ghosted and/or discarded? Is it a final discard? How can you now? Listen to “BPD Breakup What is The BPD FINAL DISCARD? Go
Malignant Borderline Psychopaths? – 8 Traits & 4 C’s of Differentiation From BPD
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Malignant Borderline “10 Signs” of Supposed BPD/ASPD Co-Morbidity
The words “Malignant Borderline” don’t have any meaning or specific context and absolutely no clinic reference whatsoever yet a therapist out there used them and also called people with BPD “monsters” – Great “professional” look eh? People with BPD may
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Ask A.J. Mahari Your questions can be about your own experience relationship with any Cluster B, you can ask A.J. anything you would like to understand about a person with BPD in or was in your life to get a
The Suicide Tunnel – BPD & Suicidality
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Heal From BPD NPD Abuse
A.J. Mahari has 32 years experience in specialized session work with clients who need to heal from BPD or NPD abusive relationships. A.J. Mahari has a 12 Step Heal From BPD and NPD Abuse methodology used in her Cluster B
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People, untreated, with Borderline Personality Disorder, cannot be emotionally intimate, in any relationship type, consistently, congruently, or age-appropriately. What is healthy emotional intimacy? Healthy emotional intimacy requires mutuality and reciprocity. It also requires the emotional intelligence and maturity to be
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What is Borderline Forever Ammunition? It wounds and it is abuse. Toxic Relationships that are Trauma Bonds. Codependent Repetition Compulsions keep you in the double bind no-win trap of self-abandonment. Borderline Forever Ammunition is especially true for untreated borderlines. Codependent
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There are 3 stages to BPD Relationship that pw/BPD and Codependents are not conscious of when these relationships start. If you are new to figuring out what’s going on or still trying to get over the BPD Ex and needing
BPD Relationships Hypersexuality of BPD Women is The Trap of Sex Addiction In the Trauma Bond For Men
You meet her, the woman with Borderline Personality, she is amazing, things happen quickly. Sex and relating are intense. The Borderline hypersexual woman. Everything is just so great to the point of what comes next, in time, that it you
Hypersexual Borderline Women – What Men Need to Know Part 2
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Hypersexuality in BPD Women Part of The Who You Thought She Was Trauma Bond | Part 3
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Not all with BPD are the same. Some will never be violent. A smaller percentage of both Men with BPD and women with BPD can be violent physically. Male and Female Borderlines Abuse in many ways. What has been your
