Hypersexuality in BPD Women Part of The Who You Thought She Was Trauma Bond Part 3 The intensity and hypersexuality of the untreated Borderline woman is only another part of the who-you-thought-she-was trauma bond. It Codependency Recovery after a BPD
BPD ABUSE – Borderline Externalized Aggression
Not all with BPD are the same. Some will never be violent. A smaller percentage of both Men with BPD and women with BPD can be violent physically. Male and Female Borderlines Abuse in many ways. What has been your
Borderline Forever Ammunition Codependent Repetition Compulsions Trauma Bonds
Borderline Forever Ammunition Codependent Repetition Compulsions Trauma Bonds What is Borderline Forever Ammunition? It wounds and it is abuse. The Trauma Bond. Codependent Repetition Compulsions keep you in the double bind no-win trap of self-abandonment. Borderline Forever Ammunition is especially
Borderline Personality And Cycles of Abuse
Borderline Personality And Cycles of Abuse Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is highly associated with verbal abuse, emotional abuse, psychological abuse, physical abuse, and/or domestic violence often suffered by those who are non-borderline. The propensity for abusiveness in those with
Borderlines Don’t & Won’t Love You or Attach To You
Borderlines Don’t & Won’t Love You or Attach To You especially if untreated or not substantially treated over years. People with the trauma response the APA pathologizes and stigmatizes as Borderline Personality, have arrested early childhood development. People with BPD
What is Emotional Self Control?
What is emotional self control and why is it important? What skills does emotional self control require? How you can develop those skills and questions to ask yourself to self-reflect on what you may benefit from learning more about the
Life Isn’t Fair
This is a central negative core belief that so many people are often left with from childhood – that Life “Should” be Fair. Let go of this toxic dichotomy of “fair vs unfair” and take personal responsibility and ownership of
Codependent Collusion & Self-Abandonment
Codependent Collusion & Self-Abandonment in and after a relationship with a person with Borderline Personality means recovery is two-pronged. On one level you need to heal from the relationship with the person with BPD. You also need to get into
Connect To Self – Codependency Recovery
Codependency has its roots in childhood. It is deep. It is painful. It is an unhealthy relational pattern. Codependency is to varying degrees is a loss of self, a lack of self love, in childhood, emotionally. In response to adverse
BPD Emotional Radioactivity is Codependent Kryptonite
People with Borderline Personality or NPD are codependent kryptonite. They continue to hurt you where your inner child lives inside of you. They don’t consciously (more w/BPD) do this on purpose but it happens. Codependents need to focus on the
BPD NPD Relationship Breakup Recovery
With 32 years of experience working with people in recovery and healing from trauma bonded relationships (of any type) with a person with Borderline Personality or Narcissistic Personality Disorder or co-morbidly both, A.J. Mahari, can help you to let go,
Borderline Entitlement | Internal Split Projected Out
Borderline Entitlement Internal Original Split Projected Out leaves so many feeling blamed and shamed by someone with BPD in their lives as if how the person with BPD abused and/or manipulate you is how you treated them. People with Borderline
Have BPD? Transference in Therapy – What You Need To Know
For many with Borderline Personality working hard in therapy and building trust with a therapist is not an easy journey or process. To then, when you trust enough, to get to transference, where a therapist needs to meet you with
Ghosted by a Quiet Borderline
The person who manifests Borderline Personality Disorder in an internalizing “quiet borderline” way often discards, ghosts suddenly without warning in one or two ways. The first way is they simply leave you without any warning, conversation, closure and for so
Borderline Personality Recovery – Find The Real You
People with BPD can recover. No one can save you or rescue you but you can – choose to get into therapy and stick with it. Psychiatry’s narrative and younger generations of people with BPD being told they cannot recover
BPD Triggers are Gateways To Recovery
Many with Borderline Personality spend much of their lives running and hiding from triggers. Some refuse therapy. Others struggle to engage it. Why? Because of the fear of the feelings – painful, scary overwhelming feelings that trigger them to emotional
Codependency vs Covert Narcissists
Codependents are not narcissists and narcissists – specifically the “pretending” to be “codependent” cover narcissists are not actually codependent. Many people have various differing opinions on this. I can see where some are coming from. However, just because to a
Key To Recovery After a Borderline or Narcissist
Many disagree as to what an Empath is versus a Codependent. Many psychologists note that empaths have codependency and are codependents. Some will say empaths have codependent tendencies. This debate back and forth really misses the central point. That is,
Borderlines Intensity and Urge to Merge
It is common for many with Borderline Personality (untreated people with BPD or those in denial) to not only have intense emotions, intense and frequent mood shifts, but also for them to engage others in ways that lower or push
Why Borderlines Abandon You
People have heard or experienced a lot when it comes to Borderline Personality Disorder and abandonment trauma. What many loved ones, boyfriends, girlfriends, partners, husbands or wives are finding out in very painful and traumatic ways is that many people
