Borderlines and Codependents both have considerable denial. It’s not manifested in each groups lives the exact same way yet it underpins a lot of this most unhealthy bond. Online Borderlines often use “we” when they share their narrative (often not
BPD Discard – Is This It a Final Discard?
Do you have a girlfriend or boyfriend with suspected or diagnosed Borderline Personality Disorder? Have you been ghosted and/or discarded? Is it a final discard? How can you now? Listen to “BPD Breakup What is The BPD FINAL DISCARD? Go
The Suicide Tunnel – BPD & Suicidality
The Suicide Tunnel – Applies to BPD Suicidality Too Feeling Suicidal Right Now? Read This First
Hypersexuality in BPD Women Part of The Who You Thought She Was Trauma Bond | Part 3
Hypersexuality in BPD Women Part of The Who You Thought She Was Trauma Bond Part 3 The intensity and hypersexuality of the untreated Borderline woman is only another part of the who-you-thought-she-was trauma bond. It Codependency Recovery after a BPD
Borderline Personality And Cycles of Abuse
Borderline Personality And Cycles of Abuse Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is highly associated with verbal abuse, emotional abuse, psychological abuse, physical abuse, and/or domestic violence often suffered by those who are non-borderline. The propensity for abusiveness in those with
Borderlines Don’t & Won’t Love You or Attach To You
Borderlines Don’t & Won’t Love You or Attach To You especially if untreated or not substantially treated over years. People with the trauma response the APA pathologizes and stigmatizes as Borderline Personality, have arrested early childhood development. People with BPD
What is Emotional Self Control?
What is emotional self control and why is it important? What skills does emotional self control require? How you can develop those skills and questions to ask yourself to self-reflect on what you may benefit from learning more about the
Life Isn’t Fair
This is a central negative core belief that so many people are often left with from childhood – that Life “Should” be Fair. Let go of this toxic dichotomy of “fair vs unfair” and take personal responsibility and ownership of
BPD NPD Relationship Breakup Recovery
With 32 years of experience working with people in recovery and healing from trauma bonded relationships (of any type) with a person with Borderline Personality or Narcissistic Personality Disorder or co-morbidly both, A.J. Mahari, can help you to let go,
Ghosted by a Quiet Borderline
The person who manifests Borderline Personality Disorder in an internalizing “quiet borderline” way often discards, ghosts suddenly without warning in one or two ways. The first way is they simply leave you without any warning, conversation, closure and for so
Codependency vs Covert Narcissists
Codependents are not narcissists and narcissists – specifically the “pretending” to be “codependent” cover narcissists are not actually codependent. Many people have various differing opinions on this. I can see where some are coming from. However, just because to a
Borderlines Intensity and Urge to Merge
It is common for many with Borderline Personality (untreated people with BPD or those in denial) to not only have intense emotions, intense and frequent mood shifts, but also for them to engage others in ways that lower or push
BPD Suicide – An Epidemic
Losing a loved one with Borderline Personality Disorder to completed suicide happens all-too-often for so many people. Statistics continue to indicate that 10% of all people diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder will commit suicide. There is not way to measure
After Narcissistic or Borderline Abuse – Difficulty of Finding Support and Understanding
Known as Cluster B Personality Disorders in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM 5) the “bible of psychiatry” (for what it is worth) includes Borderline Personality, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and Anti-Social Personality Disorder (psychopaths & sociopaths). These diagnoses are not
Loved Ones of BPD Protect Your Health When Borderline Rages
Many people with Borderline Personality Disorder are triggered often, causing the idealization split to rapidly become a devaluing split that comes with the emotional dysregulation of externalized aggression, RAGE. After the suicide of my partner, 4 months ago, today, I
15 Signs It’s Time To End a Toxic Relationship
A.J. Mahari’s YouTube Channel over 600+ Videos and her Audio Podcast Videos People with mental health challenges, Borderline Personality, Narcissistic Personality, other personality disorders manipulate your feelings and fool you as you fall in love with them. Narcissists
Externalized Aggression in BPD – Stop Enabling
Many with BPD who pinch, push, or slap a partner or person “close” to them expect others to just tolerate that like there is nothing wrong with it because they “couldn’t help it.” You can’t ever know, anymore than the
After Narcissistic Abuse – Finding Yourself & Cultivating a Healthy Comfort Zone
People who are abused by a Narcissistic or Borderline significant other, boyfriend, girlfriend or a parent from childhood continuing into adulthood, develop what is defined as a “toxic” or unhealthy “comfort zone.” People try to meet their needs in ways
How is a Narcissistic Family Identified – Application to Client Treatment
A Narcissistic Family is identified in a new way for Mental Health Professionals in a book written by Mental Health Professionals. This is so important because when in the trenches with clients with Narcissistic Personality Disorder or several NPD traits,
Narcissistic Abuse Can Cause Brain Injury That Effects Your Physical Health
Prolonged stress and exposure to narcissistic abuse can cause the hippocampus to shrink, which effects your short term memory. This type of stress, trauma and abuse also causes the amygdala to swell. This is a direct result of the
